I get super paranoid when my boyfriends phone is off and freak out?

[Anonymous]

If I call my boyfriend and his phone is dead or goes to voicemail or it dosent go through I freak out and I’ll call numerous times- I don’t actually need anything at all I just wanna know what he’s doing as I’m pregnant with his child and I just like to know where he is and if he’s ok. Am I being needy here? I genuinely don’t need anything half the time I just call as I freak myself out and get anxious on why he’s not answering - I get so anxious like if I haven’t heard from him in 4 hours I’d start spiralling

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1 y

Is this normal behaviour would it come across as needy

[Finchie40]

Oh No!!! you are one of those girls !!! your boyfriend is in for a rude awakening by knocking your ass up , he is dealing with a true psycho on his hands , he doesn’t realize the second he doesn’t call you back within a reasonable time you are going to strangle him , I already know who wears the pants in that family , I am only fucking with you lol but hear me out , your boyfriend loves that you are checking in on him , even though he might get annoyed at times he still loves every second of it , but listen to me? Don’t ever stop doing that cuz the second you do he is going to think you are up to no good and that’s when shit hits the fan , Always make your partner feel appreciated and wanted , that’s what guys want from a girl he gave his heart to , so if you stop that then you dug your own grave sorry to say but it’s truth , Guys want a girl that values him and wants him and looks up to him , that doesn’t deny him intimacy and affection , when you do that for him he will so do the same in return trust me

[Anonymous]

It's understandable to feel concerned and want to ensure your partner's well-being, especially during pregnancy. However, if you find yourself constantly anxious and obsessively checking on your boyfriend's whereabouts or feeling the need to constantly contact him, it could indicate a level of insecurity or dependence that may be worth addressing.

Here are a few suggestions to manage your anxiety and create a healthier approach to communication:

Open communication: Talk to your boyfriend about your concerns and anxieties. Explain your need for reassurance and ask for his support in finding a balance that works for both of you.

Trust-building: Building trust is crucial in any relationship. Try to trust that your boyfriend values your well-being and will reach out to you when he can. Trusting each other can help alleviate anxiety and allow for healthier communication.

Self-care: Focus on taking care of yourself and managing your own emotions. Engage in activities that help reduce anxiety, such as meditation, deep breathing exercises, or seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist.

Establish boundaries: Discuss and establish boundaries together. Determine what is reasonable in terms of communication and find a balance that respects both your need for reassurance and his need for personal space.

Remember, it's important to address your anxiety and find ways to manage it in a healthy manner. If your anxiety becomes overwhelming or affects your daily life, consider seeking support from a mental health professional who can provide guidance and assistance tailored to your specific situation.

[RavVid]

Girls seem to be prone to worrying like that. 'Call me when you have landed'. Really, how often do planes fall out of the sky?

It is sort of charming in a way but a major pain in the ass eventually. Maybe start setting limits, go from 4 hrs to 5 hrs and working up to when he finishes work. Most of the time he will live. :)

[WanderingLoveWizard]

You're just worried about him, because you love him and care about him. That's normal. One time I couldn't get a hold of my girlfriend all day, and it was because she was dead

[spartan55]

I feel bad for your boyfriend, but he puts up with it.

[KrakenAttackin]

It's your own behavior that freaks you out about his behavior.

[Anonymous]

God bless your boyfriend 😂