If a person genuinely apologises for not replying to a text would you accept their apology? Should I be more understanding?

[Anonymous]

I have been seeing a guy for almost 3 months. We aren’t exclusive.. it’s just a casual thing so I shouldn’t really care. He sometimes takes a day to reply. Last week he didn’t reply in a few hours and I sent him a massive text asking why he isn’t replying. He was with family. Then he went the longest 1 week without replying and I asked him if I did anything wrong. He apologised twice and said so sorry I didn’t mean anything by it. I know he has been going through a hard time lately and has been working 60 hour weeks. I should really understand and take it lightly or is that just excuses? I feel like I’ll lose him if I’m not patient

[Hulk_kitty]

It all depends how much energy you want from him in the relationship, if you want something serious, then you are wasting your time with this guy. If its something casual, then I think you can make allowances for him.

It really depends on what you want out of the relationship as well? What do you want? sound like you are confused in terms of your relationship goals.

[Asker]

@hulk_kitty yes of course if he doesn’t put the energy in which he hasn’t lately then I can’t expect a relationship. We haven’t even spoken about anything in terms of a relationship that’s the thing as well. He hardly has any time for a relationship as he constantly works and I feel like I need to get the know him better. I was wanting to let him know that I’m developing feelings and if he is for me too but he needed to vent about a hard situation he went through.
So for now it’s just casual so I guess I can make the allowance and not get to caught up in my emotions.

[Hulk_kitty]

You have answered your own question.

[Whatisthatname]

If they apologize I think you should accept it. As long as they don't keep disappearing for weeks without a reason, because then it doesn't seem like they value you as a person.

[Asker]

@whatisthatname No he never disappears for weeks. I didn’t see him last week as he had a busy schedule. That’s the longest I have gone without seeing him. I guess if he apologised then he must of meant it right? I know if avoiding someone I just won’t reply..

[Whatisthatname]

Yes, as long as they don't actively avoids you.

[Anonymous]

Depends on how sincere the apology was.

[Asker]

He said sorry twice. And let me know that he didn’t mean anything by not replying. He worked 60 hours last week

[Opinion Owner]

That seems believable.

[Asker]

You mean believable or are you being sarcastic?

[Opinion Owner]

I am not being sarcastic.