What would you if your partner communicate less or only when he/she has nothing else to do?

[Anonymous]

We are distant for the time being. She lives in college hostel with her friends (females)

We’re in serious relationship and we both love each-other, but she sucks at communication I guess. We call everyday at night.

Mostly she takes a long time to reply (phone is with her all the time).. yeah thats okay. But even when I call at night, she’ll be a sleepy mood and is lazy to say how her day was and what she did…

I talked about it, we had arguments, and still she has no change. She keep on calling me when I stay silent after getting mad.

What should I do in this situations.. How to react.. Should I do the same to her,,? Like only talk when I don’t have a shit to do?

[devilish-cutie]

well you seem to have different needs and some different aspects of personality. Its never good to do things out of spite or revenge. What you can do is asses your neediness and if you demand a lot and why; maybe you have anxiety attachement. Sedond, try to understand her and her pov, and who she is as a person, how she functiones. She may be very busy thus very tired etc. Not to make excuses but understand. She may not want to burden you with things, people function differently. Before you judge her, try to understand. Try to be positive, everyone responds well with positivity. She talks to you EVERY DAY, however that goes, but she care or she wouldn't talk to you every day. Maybe try to find some topics to talk about that are of same interest (eg music or tv shows). Relationships take work and patience so if you love her work on your patience as well.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for the tips. Yes i’ll do these