Do You Like Being Your Partner's Possession?

[anon1903]

Monogamous couples love to throw around terms like "mine" and "yours" which is supposed to be sweet but it only reminds me of piling up toys when I was seven and fighting over dolls with my best friend. Point being, your partner is a human being. Nothing wrong with belonging to one another, but some people go overboard with "you can't opposite sex friends because they will all hit on you!" Or "you're mine and if I say you're not wearing that then you're not" Or "let me give you a hickey as to show everyone whose possession you are" Or "why didn't you tell your colleague I'm your boyfriend/girlfriend? I'll go tell them you're mine" like bro chill, we're not shooting a wattpad movie lmao.

PS. This question isn't designed to offend anyone. If you like your SO to treat you possessively, kindly elaborate on why and how. Thankyou!

[Kaneki05]

I love it! Though there be a fine line between it been healthy or not. It's like they can be possessive but up to a point your comfortable with and have consented to. I would love getting a hickey from a girl to show I am her's. But wouldn't like her saying "You can't be friends with other girls."
Though at the same time I do find Yandere's hot... so if she wants go that crazy I would probably just enjoy it.

I would just find it lovely if I found someone who was obsessed with me much as I am them. Then because I am more sub I would prefer to her be domineering and possessive over me and takes care of me. It's soothing. Also been Manipulated can be hot just saying.

[richardcory]

No, neither of us belongs to the other. We are together because every day we want to be together

[SeekingSubmission]

Yes but this deserve is a very detailed answer because it's not a very simplistic kind of topic yes I do like when my partner refers to me as their owner or possessor but this deserve is a very detailed answer because it's not a very simplistic kind of topic!

I love it when my partner tells me that they're mine not in the sense that they're my property or that I can control them in them trusting me enough to be able to say do whatever you want me knowing that I will treat them the right way and not in any way that would be displeasing to them!

Most people who think about attraction on a scale or as just a physical thing or really blind to a few of the most attractive things knowing somebody who has your best interests in mind for your future or for anything for that matter is one of the sexiest things that you can possibly find! Anyone who doesn't think down deep enough to catch this or these barely under the surface treasures miss out completely on them, because of their selfishness or shallow perspective, which is not really a big deal to me either way because you can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink! it just simply match that energy with the same energy and move along!

Making them feel that way enables them to make you feel like the only person in the entire world which in turn, makes what seems like a negative into a positive most people who do try to possess their partners are doing it the wrong way and are trying to control a lot of insecurity and or jealousy!

[AMS700CX4u2]

I think that started from the tradition of purchasing a wife. Hebrews practiced that tradition and I believe that Christians continued the concept in scripture. A man's body belongs to his wife and likewise a woman's body belongs to her husband. From a loving point of view that is fine. But it can be abused. " I own you"' was never the idea in the first place. I like the oriental concept of the caged bird. Leave the cage door open. If the bird continues to return then they are truly yours. If not they were never your in the first place. I know of several common law marriages that lasted until death and produced many functional children with good educations and strong work ethics.

[JordanUK]

Positive ownership is a good thing. It increases safety and security in a relationship along with mutual exclusivity. And a feeling of being cherished by your loved one is a good thing. I like to know that I am hers and she is mine.

The negative expression of this would be being controlling and possessive of your partner which is obviously unhealthy.

I think both parties want to feel safe and secure in the warmth of their partners ownership but also feel they are free to be their own person. Without being cramped or incumbered by their partner.

[Maxiebleu]

I like when the guy I’m in a relationship with tells me that “I’m his”, “your mine” in sense of “I only want you and not to date anyone else or that I won’t look at anyone else because I’m dating you.” I want to know and feel that I am the only girl in the relationship, not anyone else- no secret girlfriends/mistress/side hoe etc. I want to be called “mine” in a sense of him saying and showing that he is loyal and that he won’t break my trust.
I don’t see this as what you termed this as “possession”. This doesn’t necessarily have to mean anything along the lines on controlling..

[SnowedIn]

For us it's neither about control nor possession and more about simplicity of speech. We don't have to say "may I please introduce the person who is married to me?" but we can say my wife or my husband.

But, to your question more generally, no, being possessed isn't fun.

[NathanDavis]

possessiveness can be an absolute nightmare...

"mine" and "yours" can be cute shit and a very nice thing yes...

but if they start to add "mine and I don't share" that's when you're walking into drama territory... lol

the actual problem is when they see, as you said... friends and even family, as a threat to the relationship, that is just sick stuff... lol

[madgoat]

Some couples manage to establish a deep emotional connection that blurs the lines between them. Yes they are still individuals but they have generated a combined identity for themselves which means the terms mine and yours have less of a meaning. I'm guessing you've not been there yet.

[ARWINGx1]

This would apply to me... (can't speak for every guy, of course.)
In most cases: "Oh, he-- no!" I mean, just the thought of that would be abhorent.

The closest, however, would be when we're in the bedroom. I mean, chances are that I can be dominant enough so that it'd appear to be the case.

... At least, that's what I'm guessing, as I'm still a virgin. And thus, I don't have the experience to back it up.

[motownplayer2000]

I see your point. First question I had is… Wattpad actually has movies? Secondly, you go exclusive that means you are giving yourself to the other. For both parties, so you are giving of yourself to someone else. So technically they aren’t wrong it’s not a demeaning thing to belong to someone. But you seem like you want to have someone in your hip pocket that’s yours and want to do other things. So he can’t control you. That will never work.

[anon1903]

Wattpad stories have had screen adaptation, yes

[motownplayer2000]

Where do you get them?

[anon1903]

Usually on Netflix. But I'm an active member of Wattpad, so the authors advertise it and I follow.

[motownplayer2000]

Gotcha… good to know. Thanks for the info

[SaRang21]

I love feeling wanted and seen as a treasure by my partner but I don’t want to be controlled

[Sparkie460]

The type of possessive language you describe is wrong. I never said that to my wife ever. Just because I'm married to her doesn't mean I own her. She is her own self, not an object that you can own.

[Maxiebleu]

I agree with you!

[David_Kek]

Translation; you're with a guy you like, but you don't like that much, wanting to keep your options open.

[anon1903]

I'm single

[David_Kek]

You used to be with a guy like this?

[anon1903]

Yeah. Thankfully he dumped me.

[David_Kek]

You're mourning, and lying to yourself that you don't care and am glad

[anon1903]

Okay.

[anon1903]

Anything else, Mr Therapist?

[David_Kek]

You're a dysfunctional fool who probably should get therapy for your lack of introspection?

[anon1903]

Bold of you to assume I haven't been to therapy.

[Faith18letsgo]

No I do not. I like people to enjoy my company and call me their girlfriend. But not just theirs.

[petitedollbabee]

I enjoy being referred to as his, but I have no desire to be controlled.

[exitseven]

I sort of do. I gave myself to her when we got married.

[TracyF]

I don't think you understand how a relationship works. If this is your experience, then you need some help.

[MysticDevice]

I didn't mind the terms when I knew it was just a flirty thing to say.

But when I could tell she was dead serious, then I had an isssue

[FilmGuy93]

No, but the women I end up seem to think I’m their property

[boobliker]

I could never be what you are stating here as we are one and that is not a "possesion"

[Aces8]

Sure, as long as she's getting naked and spreading her legs