Guys if you & your girlfriend ended on good terms will you always care about her?

[Anonymous]

My ex boyfriend said he would even if I didn’t believe him. But then he posts lots of stuff with his new girlfriend knowing I’ll see it. l, in fact that’s all he posts, especially if I get attention from other guys. That isn’t care, so yeah. What are your thoughts?

[boggboss]

That talk is cheep and easy if u guys are still playing games like that why not delete the other and move on

[Asker]

I’m not playing games. He seems to be.

[Asker]

I haven’t been posting a new guy all over social media.

[boggboss]

No I think u both are as u said he tends to increase hoe much he posts after u get attention from guys so u are both aware how the other is acting yet u are not ending it or confronting it so no u are both playing games

[boggboss]

But it wouldn't matter if u was doing it or not if u was happy u was with him unless u was doing it for his attention the same way u assume he is doing it for your attention and at that point if thats what u think why would u keep him on social media

[boggboss]

In situations like this he can only play games if u decide to play also

[Asker]

I like to keep my relationships more private personally. I don’t feel the need to put on a show and I do feel like I prefer to protect peoples feelings. I also don’t believe games work, but I’m a straight forward person who says what I mean, maybe they work better on others.

[Asker]

But that’s not me posting things, that’s him seeing others interact with me.

[Asker]

Why is he playing the game though? I feel like I’m in a game I’m already not playing.

[Asker]

From my perspective I don’t think either of us are willing to 100% cut it off yet, maybe we miss that friendship and familiarity we built with each other. Or maybe that’s just me, maybe he just likes to feel like he’s won - again, not care.

[boggboss]

U are playing by entertaining it if he knows u are aware of what he is doing and do nothing about it u are participating in what he is doing as to why it could be anything from him actively being a jerk and trying ro upset u to him not doing it for u nobody on gag can answer why he is acting like that

[boggboss]

If u are as straight forward a person as u say u are why have u not asked him

[Asker]

I know, but experience from others usually offers valuable hindsight. I’m not playing, he might think I am but I’m not because it’s not affecting me to the point that I need to respond.

[Asker]

Because a conversation like that takes two straight forward people. It’s already obvious that would be a waste of time.

[boggboss]

So why would u continue to be friends or keep him in your life if u already know he is playing games and not willing to chamge what outcome do u expect or want here

[Asker]

Maturity, lead by example.

[boggboss]

Lol so u think he will see how your acting and just act mature fair enough

[Asker]

He already has. Actions speak louder than words.

[boggboss]

How so if hebisbattempting to make u jelouse if he was acting mature u wouldn't need to ask the question

[Asker]

I’m talking about me not him

[Asker]

I think wires have crossed.

[boggboss]

Oh possibly sorry 😅

[OfDeath]

No. Why would I?

[Asker]

Why? Because they were a great part of your life. Weird that you wouldn’t. But maybe you have no feeling left in you.

[OfDeath]

Yeah WERE is the operative word there.

I'd have moved on. It is past.

[OfDeath]

And besides, if I cared or if she (or they 2020) cared, then why did we break up?

[Asker]

You do realise people can break up and still care about each other, just not in a romantic way but friendly way, we love people in all sorts of different ways. I think what you’re talking about may be more romantic, but it’s understandable, it can be confusing. And I think a lot of people find it hard to deal with which is why it becomes the (which is still a form of caring but not showing it directly).

[In_Trance]

not a chance.

[Asker]

But I bet you’re begging for love underneath. The coldest people always ate, they just don’t know how to go about getting it and are afraid of it when they do.

[In_Trance]

No, no. That's inaccurate

[Asker]

I bet

[In_Trance]

You'd lose

[Asker]

Unlikely