So my dad has been an absent father, chose another woman and family over my mom and us. He's been in and out of my life, I've been trying to repair my relationship with him. We go months without speaking, and now I kind of know why.
Today, for example, it's been over 2 months since I've last seen him. I wanted to keep things positive. It's my birthday Tuesday, and I wanted to see him. I do miss him. When my parents got divorced it was messy, he was running around on my mom. And so he left. He didn't want to work on the marriage. He had scheduled days with me but didn't ever see me.
Anyways, I needed a ride to get my car. So I asked him if he could give me one he did. Everything was positive TILL he started talking about diabetes, saying how he cared about me and I needed to get the weight off. We weren't even talking about that, I stuck up for myself and I said I'm aware. And I was on the verge of tears. I felt so disrespected by my own father. My grandpa did the same thing and that's why I didn't want to hang out with him. I told him it hurts My feelings because I rarely get to see him and I feel like he's attacking my weight. He then says, "disregard everything I said." Yeah like I can erase every word you said. He never compliments me, he never tells me I'm beautiful. It would've been different if he saw me everyday and was actually worried.
I'm so upset, I get it was probably not from a malicious point but that's not something you bring up without seeing someone for months. "Hey, missed you, you need to lose weight because you will probably get diabetes"
Am I in the wrong?
I was 9 years old when he left.
Today, for example, it's been over 2 months since I've last seen him. I wanted to keep things positive. It's my birthday Tuesday, and I wanted to see him. I do miss him. When my parents got divorced it was messy, he was running around on my mom. And so he left. He didn't want to work on the marriage. He had scheduled days with me but didn't ever see me.
Anyways, I needed a ride to get my car. So I asked him if he could give me one he did. Everything was positive TILL he started talking about diabetes, saying how he cared about me and I needed to get the weight off. We weren't even talking about that, I stuck up for myself and I said I'm aware. And I was on the verge of tears. I felt so disrespected by my own father. My grandpa did the same thing and that's why I didn't want to hang out with him. I told him it hurts My feelings because I rarely get to see him and I feel like he's attacking my weight. He then says, "disregard everything I said." Yeah like I can erase every word you said. He never compliments me, he never tells me I'm beautiful. It would've been different if he saw me everyday and was actually worried.
I'm so upset, I get it was probably not from a malicious point but that's not something you bring up without seeing someone for months. "Hey, missed you, you need to lose weight because you will probably get diabetes"
Am I in the wrong?
I was 9 years old when he left.
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10 mo
I definitely selected the wrong topic to post this to. So sorry!
