Would you let your girlfriend/wife have female friends?

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OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

If you try to have relationships in which your partner "needs" your permission to have friends, you are going to have a miserable life. If someone is faithful to you only because you control them, that is a "prize" not worth having!

You may not be ready to believe this, but there are men and women who want a serious, exclusive relationship and who will be absolutely faithful to their partner. I am 68 years old, have been in several relationships over my lifetime, and I have never once cheated on a partner. And I know women who have never cheated on their partner.

If you live in a corner of the universe where everyone cheats, I never want to visit it. . . and I suggest you look for a better place to live!

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

She can be friends with whoever she wants as long as she doesn’t try to stop my friendships with my friends , It needs to go both ways or it doesn’t work , If she wants to have male friends then she needs to accept the fact that I have Girl friends , The only issue I have in a relationship is if a girl prioritizes her friends over prioritizing me , if she doesn’t like any of my friends then she needs to distance herself from the friends she has that I don’t like , again it needs to go both ways for it to work not one sided

fonduegirl · Accepted Answer

Why would that be a problem?

Mind you, my mom doesn't love my dad. And in her hospital, she's got two friends for coworkers who are less than reluctant to cheat on their husbands.

It never changed mom's loyalty. In fact, it has solidified it. She values her current married life.

She's a beautiful woman with moral compass. Figures.

In the end, cheating has got nothing to do with friends, oppurtunities, looks. It means you're a shitty human being. Period.

Stop blaming other factors lmao.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Its funny. My exes always hated my friend girls more than my friend guys. They knew my friend guys didn't stand a romantic chance but they felt my friend girls could influence me. Really surprising. I’ve always been my own person so I don't know where that thought came from. But yea one ex kept fearing that by going out for a night on the town with em, they’d introduce me to a new guy.

DaveJord · Answer

How would you stop them from having freinds?

lightbulb27 · Answer

Yes, my wife has friends and it's good. But I trust her. She doesn't go to clubs.

This post of yours has a lot you clean learn from it, if you pay attention and use your brain. I wouldn't live life though in fear though, but in awareness.

For many women and girls, if you trust them, you are nuts and it's your problem for not understanding females and people in general. You can apply this to children as well and all the junk they are being immersed in they cannot handle.

This guy whom just "nailed this chick" is [probably his mentality], is nuts as well, but he doesn't know it yet. This whole post is an emotional train wreck... which is why you asked the question.

I've said it before, time to turn back to Christ, traditional values. Else, it's "the self" and wild kingdom. Choose your path...

Apulu_Imback · Answer

My mom doesn't have any close friends from her times because she was really introverted. She barely calls or texts her friends, it's a really rare scene. She only has this best friend from college who is close to my mom but my mom isn't close to her, if you know what I mean.

The only thing I don't like about my mom is, after marriage she didn't try to be connected to her side of family from her side. She never calls her sisters of her mother. It's always them who call her. She's always willing to leave whenever she enters her parents' home. I don't like this at all. But she's close to my dad's family as if she took birth there only. Bad for me since I'm close to my mother sided cousins but my mom holds some stupid grudge for her family ever since she married.

However, I won't be like that. If my partner says me to leave my friends then sorry, I'm leaving you because I had my friends before I had you.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

so I’m what I’m hearing is, y’all wouldn’t want your girlfriends to have friends at all.

if you’re so insecure and worried your girl would cheat if she was out with female friends, I doubt y’all would be secure enough to let her have male friends either.

so you guys want her to stay in the house and basically spend time with you and you only. Don’t y’all hear the red flags? lol

relationships are all about trust so if you can’t trust a girl to go out with her friends without cheating, then you shouldn’t be in a relationship.
If you know she’s trustworthy and loyal then you should know she will stay that way regardless of who her friends are or where she goes out with them

BlackJeep · Answer

My girlfriend has good long term friends and we've been together long enough that I trust her completely. If she's going to a club with her friends she will typically send me a pic of what they are doing once or twice an hour and texts me what they are doing. I do the same if I'm out just to maintain total trust. I am good friends with her friends and she has to green light to get drunk when she is with them because I know they will watch her. They have an agreement that only 1 of the friends can get drunk if they go to the club.

Miristheiss · Answer

Of course. It wouldn't even be up to me. She is going to have friends regardless.

I would have boundaries if she wanted to hang out with "bad" girls who are a bad influence and are single, partiers, always trying to get her to go out to clubs and out drinking and flirting with men.

If I didn't think the friends were good for our relationship then I'd put my foot down. If she kept them in her life as friends then I'd leave her.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

There is no other option, in my opinion.
- Firstly, I don't have a say in this, it's her life.
- Even if she has male friends, some of which are orbiters. She still carry the burden of responsibility.
- There is no point being in a comited relationship unless there is trust. If you don't have that, is it even real?

Unless you want to drown your girl under water, there is no way to keep her out of the fire.

hailiegirl12 · Answer

Me and my boyfriend have most of the same friends, both male and female. He doesn't care if I talk to other boys because he trusts me and I trust him so I don't care if he talks to other girls, even his ex who's one of our mutual best friends now (his ex already said she doesn't care if we're together and she's happy for us. They now have decided they're better off as online brother and sister then boyfriend/girlfriend)

StrangerSwotto · Answer

Why not? I mean those who won't let them have female friends most likely wouldn't want her having male friends. By doing that those people make their wives or girlfriend friendless and isolate them from society with only them as their bond. When one does that, they do not view that other half as love but as possession which is incredibly wrong.

I also do not mind my wife having male gender friends however I do mind if my wife hangs out with them individually or without telling me

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

She can have friends. She can't have clubs. If one necessitates the other than I wish her the best on her travels through life.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I think if I told my OH that I was "letting her have friends" I would be single pretty quickly. I don't own her. She can choose her own friends

EmmaMary · Answer

Both my husband and I have many friends of the same and opposite gender... Within our marriage it's called mutual trust.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

You're probably more likely to get cheated on if you're trying to control and limit your partners life.

mobiusforniner · Answer

You need to get out more man. Not everyone or everything is out to get you.  You still afraid of the boogeyman?

GOLDFISH_smile · Answer

Of course! Why the fuck would I want my partner to have no friends?

elizamichale1 · Answer

What kind of question is that huhh how can one stop their girlfriend or wife from having any kind of friends whether female or male huhh

BCRanger10 · Answer

Of course. I actively encourage my wife to meet with her friends.

DextroShade · Answer

Only if they were married, although she doesn't really want any as she has stated that most women are petty and bitchy. Men should not take women seriously if they have hoe friends.

msc545 · Answer

Keeping her from having female friends would rightfully be seen as too controlling and would probably lead to a breakup. If you are this worried, don't have a relationship at all.

VadeinVain · Answer

Obviously. If you're trying to bar your partner from having friends, you're concerning.

annabananna · Answer

Unless you wanna be a creepy weirdo guy that enslaves your girl you would let her have friends.

soe11 · Answer

It was utterly horrendous action, Unforgettable panalty should be on.

bernhardh · Answer

Only female friends (since guys from my squad woukd watch over her anyhow). I am too tough for guys to deal with.

Jadebamboo · Answer

Excuse me “Let”? Girl I hope my wife has friends of her own.

Sparkie460 · Answer

My wife can have whatever friends she wants Wether it's male, female, gay, bi, or lesbian

soniaaaaaaa · Answer

She would let you have male friends?

Anonymous · Answer

Lol @ "let". Angry anon pink hordes responding in 3...2...1😆

justabuddy · Answer

I'm fine with friends. But some clarification of "club" might be helpful.

Anonymous · Answer

Grow up, little boy. This is pathetic.

boggboss · Answer

What do u mean by let her have female friends?

nolabels · Answer

"Let" her have friends?

ohsheeT · Answer

She can do anything she wants I don't own her

strateguy632 · Answer

makes me think of ross in series friends.

exitseven · Answer

yes, everyone needs friends.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

FEMALE friends? Why wouldn't I?

clampfan101 · Answer

Of course. Why would I not?

Staximus · Answer

Are you retarded or something

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

What trash animal wouldn't?

Anonymous · Answer

Of course, and why not?

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