So, this is a weird question that is in my head since quite a while now. I will be 23 on 29th of this month, and I never had a girlfriend, never had a female friend, and almost never even talked to a girl. I am not an incel, but this is because I grew up in a very conservative family, and so all these restrictions were cast on me.
So, recently I rented a small place and started living on my own. And because of this, I am now free to do whatever. However, I wanted to figure out my career for now. I suspect that I will be good to go in one year. After that, I will finally try to get a girlfriend. However, this is where my question starts.
If I start my love story at the age of 24, is it too late? What I mean is that our desire changes with time, for example, when I was a child, I liked toys, now I like anime, etc. Is this the same for love and sexual desire? When I reach the age of 30, for example, will I still care about love as much as a teenager do? Also about sex, for example, from my experience so far, I know for sure that a 18-23 year old guy love sex, does a 35 year old like sex as much as a 20 year old do? What about a 40 year old man? Does these desires go down with time? If yes, how much and when?
Thanks for reading all this. The reason I asked this is because I am really confused as to whether I should just get married to my a far relative of ours, which my parents and her parents are forcing to. (arrange marriage). Or should I try to find a girlfriend and do what I should have done when I was still a teenager? I would preferably want answers from guys, because I want to know their experience, but if a girl has a thoughtful answer, I would appreciate that too. 💕
So, recently I rented a small place and started living on my own. And because of this, I am now free to do whatever. However, I wanted to figure out my career for now. I suspect that I will be good to go in one year. After that, I will finally try to get a girlfriend. However, this is where my question starts.
If I start my love story at the age of 24, is it too late? What I mean is that our desire changes with time, for example, when I was a child, I liked toys, now I like anime, etc. Is this the same for love and sexual desire? When I reach the age of 30, for example, will I still care about love as much as a teenager do? Also about sex, for example, from my experience so far, I know for sure that a 18-23 year old guy love sex, does a 35 year old like sex as much as a 20 year old do? What about a 40 year old man? Does these desires go down with time? If yes, how much and when?
Thanks for reading all this. The reason I asked this is because I am really confused as to whether I should just get married to my a far relative of ours, which my parents and her parents are forcing to. (arrange marriage). Or should I try to find a girlfriend and do what I should have done when I was still a teenager? I would preferably want answers from guys, because I want to know their experience, but if a girl has a thoughtful answer, I would appreciate that too. 💕
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If you want a woman you need money, you dont have to spend it on them but you do have to have it.
Avoid women who require you to spend money on them, unless ofcourse you are looking to rent a cheap whore, in this case you should remember that this is a business arrangement, do not get whores pregnant.
I am nearly mid forties and I have pretty much checked out completely the last few years and while I wouldn't rule something out and I still look a bit, women essentially have nothing i need at this point.
Your peak attractiveness and value will probably be in your 30s but as people do not fully mature until they are about 25 it would be unwise to make a life commitment to someone younger than this and if you want a younger women which you almost certainly do as men value women just as women value money then you will be aiming to marry late 30s early 40s probably.
But all of this has absolutely nothing what so ever to do with your specific life, obviously if you die at 32 that will have been a problem for you getting married if thats something you wanted.
You simply can't plan your life based on numbers like this, it doesn't work that way.
You get presented with chances to do things and you either do them AT THE TIME or you dont.
You make your choices and then you live with the consequences.
i see.. what i wanted to know was does the sexual and love desire go down with time as a man. or is it perpetual? like do you, in your mid 40s, experience the same kind of emotions as a teenager do? or are you more fed up at this point. like you dont care as much now?
Quote: 'I am nearly mid forties and I have pretty much checked out completely the last few years and while I wouldn't rule something out and I still look a bit, women essentially have nothing i need at this point.'
Of course it isn't the same, how could it be? Nothing is new and exciting forever.
How much your interest drops off and how quickly will depend on your health and fitness etc
The interest is unlikely to go away completely at any age or condition but clearly it diminishes considerably over time.
Until you are worm chow.
There is a lot of activity going on in senior living facilities.
And look at the Villiages in Florida, highest rate of STDs in the country.
hehe 😁
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