Why won’t my fiancé let me go to a pool party? (Page 2)

[slatyb]

Why are you with this guy? He gets to live his life, but you don't?

[historectomy]

could be insecurity but don't belittle him for it try to make him feel like he is all the man you want

[Asker]

ill try. it’s just sad and hard when we don’t do anything. my life is boring and it makes me sad. i’m telling you we don’t do anything! we don’t go on vacation, we don’t go out on dates, we don’t go out on adventures. nothing! i hate it 😞 i also don’t do anything with my life because i don’t have money to do anything. i don’t work. my mom tries to convince me to break up with my fiancé and find someone who will do things with me, but i don’t want to. we are both 31 years old. we both recently lost really good jobs so now we are working from the ground up. he is making his own business and i’m in school for medical assistant. so he will soon make money and i will to, but it’s sad in the waiting game

[historectomy]

it is always good to have someone you can trust and depend on, i would say try asking him to do things with you and if he says no then get with friends and go out, maybe even try bringing him along do everythign you can to make it work, and i hope it works out for you

[Asker]

i have tried. his work is his priority and his friends are a priority to him. we will make plans then he’ll tell me the next day that he has to go to work and we will get dinner. little do i know after work he will go to his friends house and will call me to hangout around 10pm. or when i try to make plans with him, he is tired from work. i’ve been with this man for 9 years and we don’t have any fun.

[historectomy]

is your relationship ok, like do you talk a lot, enjoy each others company, have sex often

[historectomy]

i do think going out together is important but i like to stay at home myself so i can't blame the guy

[Asker]

no to all three. it’s probably in my head. i more than likely have real high expectations in my relationship, but i don’t feel like it’s okay. we have argued a lot these past couple of years. he has done a lot of damage with my trust in him and damaged in my self esteem and confidence. when he had instagram, he DMed a lot of girls telling them they are pretty, he liked and followed a bunch of bikini girls, he talked to a handful of them telling them he will take them out on a date, he screen shot a lot of bikini pictures, he has talked down on me a lot. we got pregnant last year and unfortunately lost it at 5 weeks and he told me that i killed it and the only child i’ll ever have is a miscarriage one, he has told me that i’m not special, he has called me stupid. every mistake he has told me that he is sorry and he was drunk and it’ll never happen again. i forgave him, but those actions and words are still in my heart.

[Asker]

he loves to go out. he goes to his friends house all the time but when it’s time to hangout with me all he wants to do is stay home.

[historectomy]

he does sound like a bad fiance, if you wanna message me on my account feel free

[historectomy]

i really don't have the life experience to know what to do here tho my gut is telling me that starting over is better but i have been wrong before

[historectomy]

if you need to talk tho i am free to listen it sounds rough

[EmmaMary]

I seem to remember reading all this nonsense not so long ago.

[AngryCarl2]

So tell him you're going and he can come if he wants, but you're not bothered either way.

[Anonymous]

It shouldn't be up to him. Time to find a guy who treats you with respect.

[Anonymous]

Because he is a wonderful, sweet guy who wants whats best for you. Which clearly is to not go to that pool party. Your boyfriend sounds like an amazing dude, be sure to thank him for being so awesome!

[gothbxtch]

not “letting” you go to anything is a massive red flag

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

This is your fault, not your fiancé. If your man doesn't want to go then fine, but you should have gone to enjoy yourself.

[boobliker]

give him his ring back first now do you understand?

[Anonymous]

He doubts your loyalty. Perhaps he has good reason too.

[Celticwolf78]

That's a start to a bad marriage if he doesn't trust you enough time to get rid of him before it gets worse

[Anonymous]

He sounds controlling. Maybe think things through very carefully before you make things official and are trapped.

[Jazzy54]

Won’t let you? 🚩🚩🚩

[Wise4myage]

That'd horse crap, I say go anyway.

[ButthurtGAGpeople1]

Are you by chance the wife of Mike Pence?

[Luckycharms12]

Maybe he is insacure you find some else

[EaterPeter]

controlling, insecure, jealous?