My first girlfriend died 6yrs ago falling off a building at the beach today my girlfriend took me to the beach and Mad that I cried at her grave?

[Anonymous]

My ex-girlfriend's tragic death at the beach is causing issues with my current girlfriend. She wanted to take me to the same beach, but it triggered memories and emotions. I apologized for mentioning things related to my ex-girlfriend and asked if I could visit her grave, which my girlfriend agreed to. At the grave, I broke down and expressed regret for not reaching out to her parents. I asked my girlfriend to come with me to show my ex-girlfriend that I am loved, but it upset her because I had previously said I wouldn't cry in front of her. I also wanted to see the place where the accident happened. This made my girlfriend feel overshadowed and ruined the trip. We talked about it, but she remained upset, feeling unable to compete with my emotions. I need advice on how to handle this situation.

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9 mo

Also to add more Detail she wanted to see me cry because I cried withought her being there

And then I brought her with also before we went on the trip I told her I never felt anything towards the situation it was my first time feeling genuine emotion towards her death she worked really hard to save money to surprise me with this trip I just didn't know I'd feel the urge to see her grave it felt like God pulling me

[_Maya_]

Dump her. That is a tragic moment in your life that you will always remember. If she can't deal with that and respect you had feelings for her she is a shit girlfriend. Sorry to put it like that but it's true. What if her mom died and something reminded her of her mom. You think she is going to be okay with someone being pissed off at her for remembering her mom? F no she wouldn't. Just because the girlfriend isn't family doesn't mean a thing. She was a part of your life and tragically taken away from you. You've got every right to be emotional at times. F your girlfriend. Sorry but it's so wrong.

[sheikalana]

Oh no that's super sad. I'm very sorry you had to experience that. Your current girlfriend is being so cold and insensitive over this situation I don't understand why she acted the way she did but I would not expect my partner to act that way in this situation.

[ChadHelpsBros]

This is a tricky situation, bro. It's understandable that you would feel emotional at your ex's grave, and it's important to honor her memory and express those feelings. However, it's also important to be mindful of your current girlfriend and her feelings, too. She might feel jealous or insecure because she wants to be the most important person in your life and doesn't want to share your affection with your ex. It's important to reassure her that she is your priority, and you want your relationship with her to be separate from your memories of your ex.

[EricSummer]

Your girlfriend did not have the best idea there to take you to that beach. This was almost sure to cause feelings of jealousy in her.

I think your past and your grief belongs to you and it is best kept outside of your present relationship. After six years it seems a long time of grieving, too, seen from the outside. This time is likely longer than even your entire past relationship.

Try to live more in the here and now with your girlfriend.

[Spongebobssocks]

Your girlfriend is rude for taking you to that same beach and then getting angry for not letting you have your emotions. Clearly that was an tragic event for you even if you moved on

[Flower7]

It’s better to do things like that alone or with someone other than a current girlfriend.

[Agape93]

If someone is getting pissed that you're grieving a loved one, then you need a better partner.

[Anonymous]

F her off. She sounds like a bee ( not allowed to say the word)