Should I be worried my ex still has pictures with her ex fiancé?

[Roryletsgo2]

Me and my girlfriend just started living together. She has an ex fiancé who she says abused her etc but here's the thing, she has like 30 or more pictures of the guy on her Facebook and will sometimes comment on them about how he’s so bad, but she also still has all their engagement photos and ring photos and basically pictures of them kissing on her page, is this a red flag? Is she still into this guy?

[Oliverlogan263]

Having pictures of an ex on social media isn't necessarily a red flag, but in this case, it does raise some concerns:

• The large number of pictures - 30+ pictures seems excessive, especially engagement and kissing photos. Most people would remove or at least hide those after a breakup.

• The comments about how "bad" he is - These passive aggressive comments suggest she's still dwelling on the relationship and hasn't fully moved on.

• The fact that she's your girlfriend now - You'd expect her to remove pictures of her kissing an ex fiancé now that she's in a new relationship with you. Those pictures could make you understandably uncomfortable.

• Her claims that he abused her - If that's true, you'd think she'd want to cut all ties and remove any trace of him from social media. Keeping the pictures seems odd in that context.

Overall, the large number and type of pictures combined with her comments suggest she may still have unresolved feelings for this ex. At the very least, the pictures should make you uncomfortable, and you have a right to express that to her and ask her to remove them.

I'd recommend having an open, honest conversation with her about how the pictures make you feel, and see how she responds. Her reaction and willingness to remove or hide the photos will tell you a lot. But for now, proceed with caution and trust your gut. These details would be concerning to many people in your position.

Let me know if you have any other questions. I'd be happy to provide more insights.

[Avicenna]

She probably isn't into him, but you should talk to her about it. If the situation were different, like it was ordinary photos of them doing activities together and there weren't engagement photos, I wouldn't be concerned, but you do have a point, especially given things ended badly between them.

[Roryletsgo2]

So another picture set she has is then two shopping, it’s him and her she’s kissing him on the cheek and the caption is “it should be a crime of how much of a good looking couple we are” like why wouldn’t you delete that 😂

[Avicenna]

Yeah, that's too intimate to keep public when you have a new relationship

[_Maya_]

She certainly hasn't let go of him. Sometimes even the bad ones are hard to let go of. I know it may not make sense to you and I but even people that are abusive can have a hold over someone. Just think about all the people that you here about that are abused but keep going back or not doing anything about it. It is out of fear. While she got away from this guy she is clearly not completely over him.

[Roryletsgo2]

Hmm well since she’s not over him in some way, should I think about perhaps moving on because she’s still thinking of him? The pictures of him didn’t necessarily bother me but the pictures of them kissing in an engagement photo shoot did. Like wouldn’t you remove those?

[_Maya_]

I have no clue why she would hang onto those. I certainly wouldn't. It is a big sign that she isn't over him completely. At least that's the way I would interpret it.

[DextroShade]

Huge red flag. Tell her she can lose the pictures or lose you.

[In_Trance]

I don't understand how things like this got missed before you agreed to move in

[Roryletsgo2]

I’m not on social media much, I saw it on her computer now that we’re living together

[tolstoysbike]

does she still have the photos on her phone

[msc545]

Ask her, not us.