Why is clinginess or jealousy bad in a relationship?

[Subflics]

[blueonblack22]

Some of it is natural. It’s a sign you really like the person. But it depends if you have it under control. If you don’t then that’s when problems start.

Very controlling men (and women) are extremely insecure. Some women mistake controlling men as confidence/masculinity and they get really turned on by it at first. But it’s the most dangerous kind of a relationship a woman can get in. The guy is much more prone to domestic violence and abuse when he doesn’t get what he wants. He won’t peacefully accept her breaking up with him either

Men might feel a misplaced sense of initial relief with a controlling woman. Reason being is the controlling woman takes the guesswork out of what she supposedly wants by telling him what to do all the time. He feels a the burden of always being expected to take risks, guesses and initiative off his shoulders.

But as time goes on he will feel increasingly emasculated and will either leave, cheat or stick around and let his self esteem and reputation slowly get crushed (simps). Worse case scenario is he might fail a major long term shit test she unfairly put on him. She will leave him and/or cheat on him just because he let her always get her way.

[Finchie40]

It’s only bad if it’s too extreme or if’s bad if your partner tells you that you are being jealous and insecure and you don’t trust them when they are doing something they never done before , usually that means they are the one that is up to no good , cuz if they truly valued you , they wouldn’t say those words what so ever , so if they clearly are doing something they haven’t did to you before , that makes them the person to be concerned with because more than likely they are being up to no good and trying to point the fingers at you like you are the bad guy. But if you tell your partner they are doing something that is making you feel uncomfortable , a loving partner will reassure you that they love you and that you have nothing to worry about , but if they get defensive and upset with you for you being concerned , then more than likely they are up to no good and trying to point the finger at you for their selfish actions, Don’t fall for that shot period

[Bethany22]

I don't think it's bad, but when it gets to the extreme, the clingy person starts to look like it's less that they think that the other person is special, but just more about them. So it eventually winds up lowering the partner's self-esteem rather than raises it. It also forces the partner to second guess the activities they were about to do before being questioned by their jealous partner. So then the partner of the jealous person doesn't know what makes them happy anymore, because they're too focused on avoiding conflict with the jealous partner.

[Subflics]

Isn't that just adapting with your partner?

[Pinay_ako]

Coz you need some me time … just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to be clinging to each other 24/7

[Pinay_ako]

Thanks for MHG 💗

[Rei13]

Some clinginess and jealously can be healthy within a relationship. If it is completely absent I would question how much the other person actually likes their partner. But it can also be extremely toxic if let run rampant. There is a difference between feeling jealousy when someone attractive talks to your partner but you don’t let it effect you because you trust your partner, and letting yourself feel jealousy to point where it consumes you and you act out on it. Same with clinginess. A little can be cute, but more than that it is overbearing/suffocating

[inhua]

it's only bad when it begins to hinder the life in some way

otherwise it's fine

[Subflics]

Hinder how?

[rienna888]

No it’s not bad, people just say it’s bad because being too attached to somebody and they don’t reciprocate is bad. I prefer a clingy and jealous partner, as long as they don’t start hitting me or verbally abuse me.

[lorenzomichael]

Who wants to be jealous with the one you're in a relationship with? That don't even make fucking sense. And to be with someone who's always clinging on your every move, fuck that shit to. You'll be better off being single. Because if you're dealing with that shit. It won't be long when you're single again.

[Grovermint]

They're both ok, it's just when they get to extremes that they're bad. Imagine, something as innocent as you greeting the mail person and your significant other has a conniption. Too clingy has you not being able to go to work without them constantly checking up on you.

[hismave]

Jealousy is bound to happen to everyone but its how you handle it that really matters. Even if you're Jealous never let it control your actions. Clingeness on the hand can be annoying cause sometimes we just need time for ourselves. Like personally I need space time to time to recharge cause of my personality and in that case if I'm dating someone that's clingy there'd be issues.

[provokeesmokee]

It can be. Or it can be a point in your favour. Depends on what your partner likes.

For me, it's exhausting and pointless.

[smashleyy]

Being with a clingy jealous partner will always lead to a codependent relationship. It’s exhausting and can lean towards abusive

[TheSpaceGnome]

They aren't. They are only bad if you have them toward a person that you're not in a relationship with.

[Anemone978]

It pushes the other person away because it is annoying...

[Nikki1989]

Because it is suffocating. People still need their space.

[ProbablyClueless]

It's exhausting to be on the receiving end of.

[Fireguy17]

It gets very old quickly and becomes worse and worse as time passes.

[Guido]

It shows lack of trust, low confidence and poor self esteem.

[WilliamMay30]

Creates a know mentality of emotional instability as insecurities. Someone should be stable if they are going to be with you in the long run.

[Anonymous]

I don't know I love both of those. She can be as clingy as she wants but as long as her jealousy isn't too debilitating, it's kinda hot.

[iseekpinetrees]

Because its annoying and childish.

[sheikalana]

Because those are toxic traits.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Because suffocation is not a pleasant feeling.

[SeaStorm1]

is only when get very extreme.