What do y’all think I should do?

Question

I never had a boyfriend before, I have talked to guys but never went farther than that. So at this point of my life I said to myself you don’t need a man to love you, you can love yourself, at I had so much peace until someone appeared he took his time with me, he knew how to read my emotions, I could talk to him about everything, we had this intense desire for each other. But he was forbidden since the beginning we knew, I didn’t want to but eventually I gave in. At the end I left because I did what I thought it was the best decision for both of us, he asked me a couples time if I was leaving because of that, I denied it. I feel so miserable now, I miss him a lot, I texted him the other day and he ignored me. I know that I failed myself and him when I knew we couldn’t have a relationship it hurts so much.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think you need to start accepting the situation for what it is rather than grieving what it never was. Somehow you created more potential with this man in your mind than what he was putting on the table, so in a big way you are mourning a fantasy. You say you knew since the beginning that he was forbidden (not sure what that means), so this whole this was doomed from the start and this ending was inevitable. It’s better to cut ties now rather than giving yourself more false hope and making it harder for yourself to leave than it already is. You made the right choice, so focus on silencing that little voice in your head that wants to give in. Nothing will come of this but harsher pain and disappointment.

BigDog1989 · Accepted Answer

Boyfriends/girlfriends, are meant for when you feel you could have their children

That's honestly what they are. When you think you could marry them, and want to have their children. Everything else is just fodder. So, don't ever worry about "not having had a boyfriend". You do you. When you're ready to have kids, you will find a boyfriend, I promise you!

by the way, im not saying you HAVE to have kids. I myself dont' want kids or marriage but, im saying, IF YOU DO WANT THEM