I have been with my boyfriend not very long a few months. My past relationships I have been cheated on both times! My current boyfriend has made comments while drunk "your beautiful... you will always be beautiful to me but men will always look at other women etc " we just want women we can't have it's natural... it stuck In my head. Now I look through his Facebook friends daily I don't know why I feel obsessed... he likes all diffrent womens photos and love heart emoji on them also. I think he adds girls on his fb too! The ladies who are half naked on thier page. It makes me feel like crap but I can't say nothing because I look crazy I no I do!! His constantly online when we are not together makes me think Is he messaging these girls? We are not actively on a relationship on our Facebooks, so his Facebook probably does look like his single... am I over reacting? he calls me messages me everyday. I just think how do you love me if your constantly liking and loving all these women on Facebook I will never no if he inboxes them... I just don't know if its my past traumas that are making me like this!!!
Why do I feel so jealous do I have trust issues?
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So, this all comes down to the anxiety that we allow social media to play and or cause in our lives. Honestly this why I do not do social media other than this website and other dating websites. Even then after I get a woman's number off of a dating site I like to unfriend or unmatched her on the site. Why, because it fucks with my mind when log in to a site to see how active this other person is on the site, and their constantly solid green bubble.
I mean why are they so active on the site, when she is talking to me through text for hours at a time? Who else is she looking at or talking to? It's all a mind fuck game, so when I start phone texting, I just stay off the sites. Like I do not even want to know. But my family and freinds are not on the dating websites, but they are on Insta, twitter and Facebook.
No, you are not overreacting, this is something that is bothering you and honestly you have every right to feel the way you feel about it. Any good man and/or woman would totally respect your feelings and conduct themselves accordingly. It's not about you being right or wrong. It's about how it makes you feel even it should or should not it does not change the fact that it hurts your feelings.
Like seriously this is the issues I run into all the time while dating. At some point the woman will say hey, I really do not like it when you say this thing or do this thing. My mind immediately goes to, wow well I find it super disrespectful when you heart emoji sexy woman on social media, like all my freinds and family and freinds of freinds could see that if they noticed... but I do notice and its super disrespectful to me. If you agree or disagree, it does not matter because that is how it makes me feel. It hurts my feelings, and that is all that should matter to you. So, stop it please. Because if you want me to respect these things about you then you need to respect this thing about me.
I’ll tell you this now, if you know you’ve been through trauma, please help your future self out by not setting yourself up to be hurt again. All of these heartbreaks and disappointments will make what you struggle with now much harder going forward, and the whole point of dating someone new is not to repeat your past mistakes if you can help it. I know this may sound hard to believe because you’ve never experienced it, but a good man will do even half the shit your boyfriend is doing. He wouldn’t be liking half naked women’s pictures online and he certainly wouldn’t present himself as single online. All I see from where I’m standing is you headed down the exact same road you’ve already traveled, and gaslighting yourself all the while as to make sense of his behavior. He is wrong, he should not be doing all that.
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