Why are a lot of people judgmental, critical, hateful and immature? Not to mention NEGATIVE? ?

[Anonymous]

When my ex (40) and I (39) broke up (he broke it off with me, after a five month relationship), a few days later, I just text his brother-in-law and other sister in law on facebook, saying it was nice meeting them, and that it was too bad my relationship with their relative didn't work out. I got NO response, no: "Oh I'm so sorry to hear that. It was nice meeting you as well. I hope you have better luck next time". NOTHING just radio silence. 😞 Why do people automatically take their relative's side? ! Even if they are NOT blood related (my dad said blood was thicker than water, but in this case, they were not blood related.). I can only safely conclude that my ex has bad mouthed me and spread lies about me. 😞 I am OPPOSITE of what most of what my ex has told his family, please believe me. I am one of the NICEST folks/sweetest folks you will ever meet. He (and they) hardly even gave me a real chance.

[ohsheeT]

Okay reread everything you just said

You don't know any of the above to be honest with you do you

Maybe they do like you maybe they do feel bad but right now in this moment in time they're not going to say anything because they don't want to create drama to get into drama or any negatives of the above they would rather stay neutral and the only way they can do that is to stay radio silence

It kind of sounds like you wanted feedback on the relationship or yourself or whatever
They are playing it smart they rather stay neutral.

[Asker]

How can you THINK that they were staying "neutral" how stupid! If they were thinking neutral, they would have had NO problem, just being civil and kind and messaging me back! There's no "NEUTRAL" here. Their silence equals ignoring me when I didn't do ANYTHING to them to deserve that, so what are you on lol.

[ohsheeT]

I agree with you 100%, but there's some people that aren't that way for me I probably would have sent you a message and say I'm sorry everything turned out the way it did blah blah blah and I hope we can still be friends blah blah blah..

So in reality it kind of shows either their loyalty to him or maybe they're dislike of you I kind of doubt that but you never can tell what people are thinking nowadays so maybe they're thinking just to ignore it and it will all go away and they're not going to be involved anymore I don't know I don't have a clue only they know

[Anonymous]

Just as possible you were talking to his relatives trying to turn his relatives against him. I'm not saying this is the case, but since I don't know you, it's a definite possibility.

Why do you care. If you had good motives just chalk it up to it is what it is. And don't let it get to you. Only worry about the changeable in life. You'll be a lot happier.

[Asker]

I was doing no such thing, they should be able to form their own conclusions based on how my ex treats them, they don't need any influencial stuff from me. Most good (matured) folks would stay neutral and not take sides, but I guess yeah, since they are "related" to my ex, through marriage or whatever, then I can kinda see where you are coming from. They may have an unfair bias against me that I don't deserve, even if that is wrong to do.

[Changiis07]

I wouldn't worry about it. You wanted to do your part by telling them it was nice to meet them, not sure if they just haven't read your message or they read it and don't know what to reply etc. Overall you guys are done and you should let it go. If people want to respond they will if not it's not worth your time