I have a guy friend that I've known since high school. For a while at the end of high school where we didn't talk. Petty school age drama. We ended up talking a few years later and both apologizing for being young and dumb. He also friended me on FB at that time. Since then his mom had a health issue and I reached out twice to send support for him and his family. That was at the beginning of the year. Lately he's been on my mind and I think I'd like to reach out. We don't really know each other anymore, so I'm not sure how to do so without it being awkward. We have a lot of similar beliefs and values, and I'd just like to strike up a conversation and see what happens. I had a crush on him years ago, but never acted on it and ended up in other relationships. Now I'd just like to get to know who he is these days and see. He lives in another state due to work so I keep telling myself it would never work. Lately he just keeps coming back to my mind and I'm not sure why. Is it weird for a girl to reach out to a guy she hasn't seen in years? Also, what do you even say when reaching out?
Yeah that is totally okay to reach out to him. Why wouldn't it be? Just because you are a girl doesn't mean you can't be the one to initiate a conversation. As for how to start that just make it simple and ask him things in life have been going. Tell him that he crossed your mind recently and you were wondering what he has been up to and how things are going. That is a good general way to start a conversation and see where it goes. I think you should totally go for it.
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Yes, please! Most of us aren’t thrilled going up to girls either. And a lot are downright intimidated by anyone they find attractive. Out-of-my-league syndrome and esteem issues are common to all genders. Although, seemingly less so among douchey, self-absorbed, so-called, ‘alpha’ males that consider themselves ‘players’… Frankly, it seems to me, this is where all the there’s-no-nice-guys talk comes from. You’re afraid to talk to them, and they’re afraid to talk to you!
I don’t know who would say you shouldn’t. Absolutely reach out.
yes it is, just ask how has he been doing and that you had been thinking about him. take a chance you got nothing to lose
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I think it’s totally fine and I wish more girls did it more often.
I wouldn't interact because I would think it was a set up or some kind of cruel joke.
You bet your sweet bippy it is.
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