Agree or Disagree: The first thing a couple fights about will be the same thing you always fight about?

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jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I think there are two types of fights - fights that happen because you have a certain predisposition that the other person does not fit well with and fights that happen because you guys are not experienced with each other and have not yet determined your boundaries and expectations or desired ground rules. So if the fight is based on some inherent inclination you have, you might repeat it but if the fight is based on the fact you do not know what the other person requires of you or expects from you due to not spending enough time with the person, the fight might not be a regular event. Also I know couples that fight because the relationship is in the preliminary stages and the person does not yet know what mechanisms they can impose to rectify functional differences between the two in a romantic connection.

Daniela1982 · Accepted Answer

If they never resolve it they will keep fighting about it every time an argument starts. They will keep bringing it up. I would say most of these people got together for sex, so guess what they fight about? Cheating is a good example of things they may bring up, or things like porn. People ignore red flags when they get together, and these same things they ignored age going to plague them until they are permanently resolved.

Subwayco · Accepted Answer

I think for couples especially you must establish guidelines or rules for fighting. One of the things I know that bothers me a lot is bringing up something that we had previously decided was settled. When you fight you say things that are not related to the issue at hand but are used as weapons to hurt the other person. Never good but it happens. When you are discussing things in the future both people tend to remember the hurtful words from the last time you argued. The connection of things said in the past to the present are just things that get in the way. Not easy but resisting the feeling to connect or remind things from the past just makes it that much more difficult to remain calm and just iron out things and get back to the hugging and kissing.

BadApple69 · Accepted Answer

Initial fights are about you didn’t call or I texted you and you didn’t respond…. Communications issues.
Later in a relationship it’ll be money, lack of attention and so on. Different arguments but it ALL comes down to communications. Communications is key.

Avicenna · Answer

I don't know about that. But people do have long memories about stuff like that.

AviatorTom · Answer

Fights are part of any relationship, and the topic of the fight keeps changing.

Paris13 · Answer

First One!!! xxoo

Simslover92 · Answer

I don't think so. The first thing my boyfriend and I fought about was him needing to change his ways a bit and we haven't fought about that ever since then because I realized that I need to accept him for who he is. We've fought about other things since then.

devilish-cutie · Answer

Maybe but surely it could be a major issue. For me when one guy I was seeing said he needs space after I said I need attention, I knew in my gut its gonna be an issue. Later on he said i missunderstood and took it too seriously, but guess what that was out major issue, I just know, its a blessing and a curse.

FriendlyCanadianGuy · Answer

My first fight with my ex was because she tried to make me become friends with her last friends with benefits. She claimed they stopped talking and hanging out after we met.

She asked me a few times, I said "no, I don't think you should be friends with an ex etc".

A month later, on our 6 months of dating dinner date, she asked me again and I walked her home and dumped her lol.

ShesRad80 · Answer

disagree, could be any number of things from what i have witnessed, always changing topics of fights with couples. im in healthcare i see couples fight all the time in there co workers, patients etc

StormChaser838 · Answer

Not necessarily, that is an oversimplification. However, disagreements have many other indirect causes like lack of communication, jumping to conclusions, etc, etc. But if you can't just be compatible , it's better to each find another partner who you'll each find compatible. Constantly fighting is stupidity, an also a pain for the people around you'll both.

JosyJosy · Answer

If you never addressed and properly solved the first fight, yeah sure it'll come back in time. If you don't want to grow as a person or a partner, put a helmet on cause you're going to run into that same wall again.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I agree, a lot of the times people can't let go and they have to rehash the same thing over and over. I try to look at the glass as being half full, learn and move on.

PhenomenalQueen · Answer

This was true with my first and last boyfriends.. So for me, I’m in agreement, but I know people who didn’t have this issue.

katiesmuff · Answer

Tiffs between couples are going to happen, but I wouldn't say it is from anything which they continually argue about

Singing_Hollow · Answer

If you are mature enough you will work through it until you get to a point where it no longer is an issue.

blondfrog · Answer

I am just here to earn my 5 points. Don't bother with me lol.

PatientZeR0 · Answer

I’ve never heard this, but one would hope that it’s a major issue that it causes conflict that you would attempt to resolve it before continuing the relationship further

Unless it’s like feeling the Britta water filter that argument is endearing and should be forever

Bricealan · Answer

ONLY A GUESS COACH. JEALOUSY? MY WIFE WAS ALWAYS SUSPICIOUS ABOUT OTHER WOMEN, EVEN COUSINS, AND SHE WAS PROBABLY BECAUSE OF HER 'HISTORY'.

Anonymous · Answer

Fighting about the same thing again and again is a bad sign. Like its either that issue hasn’t been solved, or simply that person have some personality problems which makes them hard to move on

loveslongnails · Answer

Coach, not only can't I remember the first thing we ever fought about, but I'm also equally as certain it's not what we argue about now! LOL

Miah05 · Answer

If a couple fights about the same thing over and over again

They are a terrible couple.

They can't fix the problem, that started early in the relationship, they are really selfish, or one half is really selfish

EricSummer · Answer

No, they do not have to go in circles like that. The first fight would usually be part of the two partners adjusting to each other.

In fact, if the same thing comes up again and again it is a bad sign and it can endanger the relationship.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Definitely, especially if she is losing the argument or know she is in the wrong she will bring up something from years ago

SeekerOfTruth007 · Answer

My parents and grandparents did enough arguing when I was a child. I can do without that drama. If you can't grow up, I don't have much motivation to be around you.

Jkgordon · Answer

Fighting is not the thing I don’t fight in a relationship if I have an encounter it will be a good reason not petty people be fighting over bullshit they can’t change

BigRed1987 · Answer

No, of course not, it’ll vary by couple of course. Though we’re talking major fights presumably, then I’d say possibly.

If it’s a bad habit like a spouses drinking or smoking, I can definitely see that being a potential reoccurring issue

strateguy632 · Answer

it might get mentioned later but no, not the same argument many varied ones.

molonski2 · Answer

For the most part the issues remain the same , as do the arguments and disagreements.

slatyb · Answer

No, because if you are mature adults, you resolve it.

DaBiggestBird · Answer

*fights about cheating and stay together anyways*

Andres77 · Answer

It depends on the evolution of the relationship. So I disagree with this premise.

Samhanks · Answer

Not necessarily, a fighter couples will always try to find new things or subjects to fight on. They need variety :)

Summeroflove · Answer

It depends lol

MissBoogus · Answer

Disagree because we don’t fight about those things

boobliker · Answer

not at all you can agree over anything at all

Pudsmucker · Answer

A Lot of times it's about finances. Frivolous spending that's not necessary.

Sparkie460 · Answer

If they resolved the issue, they don't fight about it

Nikki1989 · Answer

Never heard of this happening.

prakhindev92 · Answer

There are million different reasons for a fight to start

thegreenyogi · Answer

In my experience yes that's the case.

msc545 · Answer

No necessarily. There is always a lot to fight about.

Jazzy54 · Answer

Disagree. Couples have their own, unique issues.

CubaPirate · Answer

We don't argue much apart for spending money lol

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Incorrect. Very rarely do people fight about one isolated issue.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly, the first couple of fights for us

Finchie40 · Answer

Over money is my guess

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Disagree.

dazzinu69 · Answer

Somewhat agreeable

LivingExample · Answer

Agree, if it does Not get Resolved!

hornyguytbh · Answer

Yeah. That even happened to me.

True_Music48 · Answer

That’s up to chance

Christoff92 · Answer

Stereotyping

shades777 · Answer

ah who knows

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Probably yeah

pethouse · Answer

Wouldn’t know

In_Trance · Answer

I don't think so

krin_m · Answer

Probably!

Bigjake1995 · Answer

I disagree

Anonymous · Answer

I disagree.

Anonymous · Answer

I disagree

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