Tips to not feel jealous? I think what I’m feeling is jealousy but not sure?

[MissBoogus]

Hello! People who are just starting open relationships , are there tips to get over that upset feeling when you see your partner hugging someone else? And it’s only hugging! He’s the only person I’ve been with for about 9 years. I thought I was more prepared but I guess not. I know healthy communication is the best thing , and we do that already. But how do I make the bad feelings disappear? This was my idea after all and I want a second wife and I like her too , they’ve been doing stuff together with my permission but I’m still too shy to initiate anything with her. I feel if I also get closer to her I won’t feel so intimidated.

[Ozanne]

It really doesn't sound like you have anything to worry about, and should know that you are the most important person in your partner's life, not someone he is merely hugging. A few years ago, I wrote a MyTake about jealousy which can hopefully help.

Calm Down... Don't be Jealous!

[Anonymous]

I don't know about an open relationship but we did include another woman for threesomes. Our deal was I only touched another woman when she was there. She willingly shared me with another woman and actually got very turned on by watching me. Together builds trust but separate is a whole other issue that we would not do.

[DarkWinterNights]

I’ve found people who decide to turn their monogamous relationship into an open relationships tend to prefer they themselves having the new options and can get very jealous when their partner starts to bond with another person stronger than with them.

[Nikki1989]

If you feel jealousy that easily, then open relationships are not for you.

[MissBoogus]

I don’t think what I’m feeling is jealousy

[strateguy632]

advice, if you feel that way DON'T do open. gind a guy who will be exclusive

[MissBoogus]

My guy is or was exclusive, this is definitely my idea and what I want. And I’m not sure if open is the right word, we aren’t seeing a bunch of people. Just one other person that’s female.

[litty]

So you are saying there is nothing for you?

[MissBoogus]

@litty what do you mean? I get a wife

[love_conquers_lust]

Find a monogamous relationship.

[MissBoogus]

I was already in one

[love_conquers_lust]

That doesn’t change my advice.

Polygamy and polyamorous relationships cause war. That’s why it’s outlawed in the West. That’s how caliphates recruit soldiers and try to invade surrounding nations. The only time it’s remotely conceivable is post-war, not pre-war. Even then…

If you are trying to appease him so he doesn’t leave you, you’ve already screwed yourself trying to control the situation. Trying to control him. I had it happen to me, relationship ended, couldn’t survive the resentment.

[MissBoogus]

We’ve talked it out and had a first night together and I think we’re doing better now

[love_conquers_lust]

Who’s we?

[MissBoogus]

My boyfriend and the new girl

[Nik1hil]

Jealousy cannot be controlled.. 😂