What's a situationship? I'm just curious what it means to most of you?

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DaveJord · Accepted Answer

I will give you my idea of what it means. I honestly do not know what it really means.

So, a Freind with Benefit situation is type of situationship in my opinion. Were you hang out and hook up for sex and nothing else. There is not greater expectation or relationship press put on an friends with benefits. But at the same time a friends with benefits is an official relationship status where you have both at least agreed to meet periodically for sex. So it agreement and understanding.

A situationalship to me, is something that is situationally dependent. Like you are not signing up for anything at all. Like maybe you are on vaction at a hotel and you meet a person, and you both spend time together while at that destination, but when it comes time to go home... that situation is over. No strings attached.

Or if you are out somewhere and you to run into each other you might hang out, and it might led to sex... but you are not making dates, or planing events together. It is just something that might happen perodcially, if you run into each other and that all. There is not any real and true agreement or over all understanding. You might hook up randomly from time to time and you might not. But your are not even going to go as far as making it a friends with benefits thing, or even a freindship thing.

I ran into a woman once on a buiness trip, she was on a buiness trip... we hooked up together. We never exchanged numbers, or anything. She wanted it that way. It was an amazing expereicne. And down the line if we randomly ran into each other again it might be something we would do again. But it was all dependent on the situation and fate. I never say again, but it was a two day sitionalship.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm friends with my "ex," if you can call it that. We haven't had intercourse for a couple years, and at most we will snuggle or something. We tell each other we love each other, but in the platonic sense. I am not attracted to her whatsoever.

She does find me attractive, and I am constantly turning down sex or other "benefits" such as a blowjob or whatever. I mean, she's fucked random men and even sent me a selfie holding a used condom, and I couldn't give less of a crap. If she's naked or topless, again, I simply don't care. But we spend a lot of time together and talk often.

I would like a relationship, but with this current girl, I doubt I'll find anyone willing to deal with it.
And don't get me wrong, I've tried to tell her goodbye on multiple occasions but she'll threaten self harm or throw a big fit. (She's got BPD and I'm her FP. It's a nightmare sometimes and I'm depressed often, but too weak to cut her off and block her during the bad times.)

So that's what I'd call a situationship. She's like a girlfriend, gets jealous when someone else is interested in me, and keeps trying to win me over. Yet, we're still friends and there's good times with the bad. I feel trapped and wish she would just get into another relationship because she'll leave me alone during those times and I'm able to focus on myself again and not feel pressured to go to her place (20 minutes out of the way.)

crystalline0909 · Accepted Answer

It is where one person is vulnerable yet cannot act on there feelings while the other aware of that person feelings knowing leads it on establishing an exclusive invisible boundary only applicable to the other person. One person enjoys there single hood but denies the same freedom to the other one. While the other one is in its single hood yet emotionally hooked the one person.
Both are aware of each other's feelings and equal investment yet choose to act unaware to avoid any ending.
Therefore one is keeping it's options while lookiyfor. other better potentials outside of it. The other person loves with the hope of being the one stuck in a toxic loop, being left on the back burner in the waiting line.

ta-ra · Accepted Answer

Basically a person who you would do relationship stuff with sex, talk, hangout but aren't in an actual relationship.  Feels like you're in a relationship but you aren't.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

It usually means that they are hanging on to an involvement that they know is too stupid to ever justify.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I have no idea. Doesn’t sound good to me.

Lliam · Answer

A situationship is a romantic relationship that lacks clear definitions or commitment. It's characterized by emotional intimacy, spending time together, and often involves a physical and sexual component. However, partners won't define their relationship, place it into a category, or set clear boundaries.

PizzaDaddyo · Answer

Short answer: Absolutely nothing. (To me) I understand that it refers to the “talking stage”, “avoiding the friend zone“ “before official stage”

Don’t use this word. It sounds silly to play games with the mind. I would not tell said girl or mention anything about a situationship…? It just sounds lame and awkward to me. I understand stituations may be good or great but, aren’t sistuations likely to be bad? And I don’t want to label my next potential love interest as a “situation”… that sounds not valuable.

A situationship isn’t a word and I refuse to use this term because it sounds like a bandaid term for just being single. There’s nothing wrong with being single we’re all born single. I personally would rather just say I’m single and accept it than tell people that in a situationship. Just me tho. I really think that it creates a useless extra step in relationship building.

serious · Answer

Honestly I just came across this term just 2 months back and before that I did not know that there was such a thing as a " Situationship".

As for what it means. According to me I think it means a connection between two people, it can also be that two people love each other and it can be very strong love too but that love would not turn into a relationship, instead they would just love each other but won't commit.

In short it can be love without any commitments whatsoever.

EricSummer · Answer

An arrangement between people below the age of 30 who are romantically involved with each other and having sex, but without calling it girlfriend and boyfriend or introducing each other to their parents and similar things.

It's something that happened, not the result of a plan.

It may or may not be exvlusive at least for the time being.

I would not recommend my kids to leave things unckear like this.

BCRanger10 · Answer

It's a made-up word that means absolutely nothing. At least nothing good. If anything, it sounds like a pseudo-relationship based on use.

spartan55 · Answer

Just a fancier version of friends with benefits. (in name only) Different people have different definitions, but the bottom line is it's not a committed relationship.

nastyb · Answer

it just means you're being manipulated by a man to do something where he can take advantage of you. And usually it has to do with sex or attention that he wants from you.

genericname85 · Answer

it means you're fucking or making out with a person that you technically aren't with and you're not sure if you're ever gonna be.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

We do boyfriend and girlfriend things, but there's no real plan for where things go in the future. We don't have the obligations of a formalized relationship to each other.

Simslover92 · Answer

Another term for friends with benefits. You're not really together but you have all of the benefits of being a couple without the title.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Repeated fornication without exclusivity commitment. Not necessarily promiscuity, but it’s easy to transition into that with multiple “situationships”. Term is kind of stupid.

Angxl3120 · Answer

A guy friend who I make love to but he's not a boyfriend to me.

RingOfFire · Answer

What it means to me is a waste of time. Just hire a good hooker... in the end it's faster, cheaper and probably better sex.

BigDog1989 · Answer

It's that "in between" thing where you're not really sure what you are, but you know you like each other

Iron_Man · Answer

I have no idea it’s a following sheep internet Slang word

AaronKrieger · Answer

You are dating, but not in a relationship.

krin_m · Answer

It means that it is an uncertain relationship and I would not want to continue with it.

justabuddy · Answer

A more respectable way to say friends with benefits.

DermalPunch · Answer

Massive waste of time involving sex.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I've never heard that before.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

A "fuck buddy".

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