Is it a stupid comparison and not even relatable?

[Anonymous]

So my ex who left me called me and after the 3rd time I answered and she just wanted to talk she said she doesn’t know if she has feelings still and basically she always had a thing about not showing or doing good with receiving affection from past trauma I brought up a point of her sending some random guy in the past nudes which was before me and her and I said how come she could do that but she couldn’t show me affection or FaceTime me more when we were together and she said it was different but like how she liked me but didn’t show affection but can send a nude to someone she barley knew? And I made sure to tell her I’m not judging her or asking for some or care what she did in the past I was trying to compare affection and she said it is two different things. Is my point stupid

[Anonymous]

I understand what you were getting at, but they are actually different situations. I can relate to her. When it comes to relationships, I struggle a bit with sending nudes to a partner, mostly due to being self conscious and actually caring about their opinion on my body. Whereas in the past I’ve had no problems sending nudes to strangers, or posting my nudes on public forums for strangers to judge/compliment, because I don’t know these people and I have no emotional connection to them, so they could tell me that I’m very ugly and I would not care. But if a partner told me that my body is gross, then I would get very upset because I actually care about their opinion. Does that make sense?

[Asker]

Yeah completely understand I don't know I guess I’m just confused about a lot rn but this was actually really clear and helpful thank you!

[Opinion Owner]

I’m glad that it helped.