Do you REALLY believe tht people change?

[Meropatrick]

I dont believe so. I met people who were mean 10 years ago and still they r. I met people who were selfish and still they r. I met also kind selfless people who still the same. They grew cautious because they got burned because of their kindness though they still never changed if you get close to them. I believe that circumstances make people cover Some traits they had. But once they r allowed to be their oldsc self they will be. Old habits die hard i think

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I like all ur opinions so far. But most of u believe people do change. Some people believe that too and they end up dating someone who is bad hoping she/he will change but they dont change no matter what

[HollyK21]

Yes, and I think a lot of that change comes with maturing and the lessons learned along the way. Of course there will still be those who keep negative traits, never really growing or bettering themselves. But many grow out of toxic ways and become a better person. I’ve been pleased to witness it myself.

[HollyK21]

Per your update, I think that scenario would be a bit different. Personally when I think of your initial question I envision someone that I knew to be one way, then overtime they changed and matured. For someone to meet a person, see how they are, decide to date them and hope for them change whatever they didn’t like is just silly in my opinion. Simply because you can’t expect a person to become who you wish they’d be as a partner, they either are or they aren’t.

[Anonymous]

They can try to change their behavior, and they might be able to, but i dont think people ever completely change. They’re gonna have to keep “trying” and keeping self discipline. It won't be easy for sure.

[rigmarole]

People are always changing, but not necessarily in the ways you want them to. You can't change people, but they can choose to do things differently and tackle different sorts of goals for their own reasons. It's their life to live.

[normalice]

Change requires discomfort and people generally do everything they can to avoid discomfort. When they don't or can't avoid discomfort, change occurs. And people fail to avoid discomfort pretty regularly.

[HappyWoman34]

Ehhh, they CAN. If they haven’t matured by their thirties, they probably never will.

[Nifrayu]

Of course. I know I have.

[LiamJHayden]

Yes, but not all do.

[Anonymous]

Not at thier core they don't.