Do you believe that a relationship should always be "fair"? (Page 2)

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As children, we are told that we must be "fair" to other people, and that usually involves treating them the way we would want to be treated. So, when we start dating, most of us believe that relationships should be "fair." For most, that implies that both participants should make a substantially equal effort for their partner. But some people have different ideas about what "fairness" means, and some people get extremely upset when they decide their partner isn't being "fair." All relationships can't always be fair. I am getting married on April 27 and my fiancee (who lived in China until she was 29 years old) knows NOTHING about American weddings, and that is what she wants: an American wedding. So I must do all of the planning. I could complain that isn't fair, but what does that accomplish? I think "fair" isn't a useful concept for relationships. It should be replaced with two questions: are you getting your needs met in the relationship, and is your partner usually contributing to the best of his or her abilities? If the answers are "yes" and "no," then it is most likely a healthy relationship. What do you think?

ODC2112 · Answer

No. A relationship is a war but in the evening you sleep with the enemy.

Anonymous · Answer

no i believe women were created to please men.  Which is not fair to women. But as im not female i dont care.

Longshanks1968 · Answer

Get over it, nothing is fair

Christoff92 · Answer

Sure depending how both sides take it.

In_Trance · Answer

Treat each other fairly... yes

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Both sides should give100%

jimmy2 · Answer

Fair and equal or fair as State Fair 😂

Engin12 · Answer

It shouldn't be unfair

Anonymous · Answer

Should try to fair always.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I sure do.

Debbie14217 · Answer

Um no way

Anonymous · Answer

I never been on a date at all.

_RebelWolf_ · Answer

Yes I think it should be fair

Stopbrhr · Answer

No I’m traditional

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