She’s staying even though he cheated?

[Anonymous]

My best friend has been dating her boyfriend for a little under a year now. Recently a random girl brought up the fact that my friends boyfriend was recently asking her for nudes and flirting with her and saying how badly he missed her. Him and the random girl previously slept together, and the BF’s infidelity in his last relationship also had to do with him jumping between his ex and this other girl.

He apparently blocked the random girl now - after she confronted my best friend, but my friend is still sticking by him and posting like they’re okay and I’m having a hard time supporting her because of how badly I perceive his actions. How can he ruin one relationship and then practically a second with one girl!

I’ve kept my opinions mostly to myself, but her staying with him cannot be a good thing right?

[BoopBoopBeep]

I'd say it's not a good thing. I'd also say it's not your choice to make. Support your friend or don't and live with the consequences, but if you are just going to tell her over and over how much he sucks you're going to be the one getting dropped first.

[Asker]

No and that’s why I’ve tried to limit my opinions but it’s just so frustrating bc I want her to be in a happy relationship

[BoopBoopBeep]

Well, she may be. Lots of people are happier in unhealthy relationships because they're too needy to be alone. Maybe that's her.

[Asker]

I’ve never thought about it that way - but you know that makes a lot of sense! I really appreciate that

[BoopBoopBeep]

Sure thing!

[wisdomtarot]

Of course it's not a good thing that your friend is staying with him. I can understand how it can be tough to see her go through this being her friend. But do be understanding. Clearly she is already insecure within herself to want to leave him. What a crappy guy! It's not her fault that he's a cheater, it has everything to do with his own ego. It is her fault that she continues to stay with him. As a friend, all you can do is support her through this situation. Share the realities of the emotional abuse that he's put her through. Remind her that it's not her fault. Remind her that she is a strong, and beautiful person. That she is worth so much more, and that there are way better people to choose from. Acknowledge that yes, it will hurt. Any breakup is painful, but in time it will heal, and has her friend you will be there. If after all of that effort, and she still doesn't get it. That's her problem. It's helpless. But that's completely up to her.

[Wise4myage]

She's a fool.