My boyfriend doesn't tell me how much he makes. Should your boyfriend/girlfriend tell you how much they make? (Page 2)

[SugarSugarplum]

Do you tell him how much makeup you wear? How much you spend on shoes? It's not important until you're getting proposed to.

[Assi2k]

Yes. Suggest before making the relationship official, a woman wanting to be a house wife should ask.

[SexyBrunetteNY]

Most men have a thing where they want to impress a girl, and if he's not making good money then he hides it 'cause he's ashamed.

[bolverk]

Your boyfriend is under no obligation to tell you how much he makes that his business and his alone, even if you are living together you have no need to know what he makes.

[Dinklex3]

It can be a touchy subject for some.

I don’t think it’s a requirement.

Why do you want to know?

[236color]

It's rude as he'll to ask, and reveals what's important to you. Personally, I'd drop you like a live rattlesnake.

[Unit1]

This is why we don't want to disclose our income

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[Unit1]

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[Mariabea]

I'd like to know, depending on how long we've been together, I'll know if he maintains another family or another woman's luxuries

[Guardian45]

I think it's only relevant when it comes to shared expenses. My ex wife & I had 3 accounts: Hers, Mine & Our House account, which we both contributed to proportionally to our salaries. My bank account was mine. Her bank account was hers!

[dragoblack]

No. Focusing on someone else's finances is a major red flag whether in a relationship or not. If you both live together and both finances are consider jointed because of taxes, that's a different story. If he wants to tell you, he will.

[hahahmm]

Because he's smart right now. He could become dumber at any point in time.

[lildkman1090]

If you are together you shouldn’t hide that shit from each other

[SexyRedd1966]

It's not your business he's your boyfriend not your husband

[katiesmuff]

If he is just your boyfriend it none of your business!

[Ms_Facesitter]

He wants a partner that doesn't judge based on income.

[Alwayreckles93]

Well I a married now. But I will just put thi as an example. I wouldn't care.

[DaBiggestBird]

It doesn’t sound like something that is super essential but I don’t see why it must be kept a secret.

[Anonymous]

I dont see the harm in it at all. Also, if you ever plan on living together, knowing how much each of you will contribute, etc. its going to come out eventually.

[Anonymous]

I personally beleieve yes, both side should disclose it especially if you guys have long term plan tgthr… thats to when anything happen, u guys will know what to do and what to expect

[whirled_up_girl]

Well, I think eventually I might like to know but it's not required and not right away.

[RedInnocent68]

I suppose it depends how long you’ve been together, like if you’ve been living together, paying bills, etc, for a while (that is, common law spouses).

[strateguy632]

obviously secret if she asked twice she is gold digger

[Chevy1_kb]

I don't mind doing it sometimes it better to know them more first to aswel

[Simslover92]

Yes it's okay especially if you've been dating for a while.

[Marklaw12]

No, not at all. Why do you want to know? Be decent and only buy things on the DL.

It's only when you get serious this should be important.

Order your own food, buy your own clothing.

[Agape93]

No, it's their money. You're not married, wtf does it matter?

[Anonymous]

There are a number of reasons why this is generally restricted information. It's ok to ask and it's ok for him not to answer.

You're not his wife.

[Kabluie]

It's fine to me. We talked about money before moving in kind of things.

[elizamichale1]

Well I also don't know how much my boyfriend makes but I m not bothered by it though

[sheikalana]

No, is not a requirement. It's also a very personal question. You don't need to know that.

[clampfan101]

They don’t need to give exact numbers, but giving an honest answer as to what their current job is sounds polite for someone you’re dating.

[Mangospacho]

If you just give us his age, position, and metropolitan area, we can come up with a rough estimate.

[Massageman]

It's not imperative that they tell you. If you know them well enough, then you should be able to know if you should ask or not.

[Friendlybro79]

Its ok to ask and it's ok to not answer if you're not married. If you're both talking about marriage then that is a fair question to bring up.

[findacure4wokeness]

No not till after they are married and only a gold digger would insist on knowing before then.

[LivingExample]

He should tell you in an Engagement or Marriage situation. That is a commitment so you both will know what you have to work with. If you are just dating it is none of your business!

[paledreams]

128 men can't be wrong, I say yes, and counting lol 😆😉

[GeminiDiamond]

If I told him how much I make... He would still be with me.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, he should sit down and talk that over with you.

[DJB72]

If you're not married it's not your business. If you are then no secrets.

[Drumlin2001]

Why is it relevant? Unless you're getting married you don't need to know

[Anonymous]

Since your 44, it shouldn't matter. If you were about to start a family, or live together, it would matter..

[MrGSpotHer]

It's all depending on how long you have known him and how serious the relationship is, I don't know why it's important if it's just casual dating

[nawtee_me]

Is it the fact that he hides it from you or the fact that you know that bothers you more? Honestly it wouldn’t bother me in the least…

[Äxlbäksölöl]

Its their own private stuff… If they buy food or pay their side of the rent then its fine that they dont tell you. In my opinion.

[jojoisaskingyou]

He doesn't have to tell you. Even if you're married. But if he feels comfortable to tell you then he will

[lorenzomichael]

Who gives a shit and whats the differents? As long as they have a high Fico score. Then you don't need money

[Sparkie460]

Boyfriends and girlfriends shouldn't be sharing income amounts unless you live together with the intent to get married.

[Sasha0426]

He thinks you’re a gold digger. All men think that way about their partners. Even if you are married.

[Paul09]

Depends how long you are together. Maybe he doesn't tell anyone at all. Could be very private to him and I get that

[SEEKINGSUBMISSIONS]

YES BUT, not until after a very clear bond of trust is established and they are able to help each other as a team and build up their world together first!

[Anonymous]

If he keeps it secret then he doesn't trust that it wouldn't matter to you.

[Iron_Man]

Why bother bringing it up? Sounds like a Golddigger would act like that.

[Anonymous]

Why do you want to know? Do you think you have a right to know?

This is the equivalent of men wanting to know women's sexual history, just fyi. Think about it.

[Anonymous]

Wtf business is it of yours how much he makes or where he gets his money from. Does he ask you how much you make or where you get your money from? If he doesn't then butt out or you'll be thought of as a golddigger.

[LinkxPeach]

He probably thinks you only asking how much he has in case you steal it from him. No, because you probably can’t be trusted.

[Quigly]

If he's just a boyfriend, You are not managing finances together under one roof. It's none of your business.

[Shianne808]

If you guys are in a serious relationship and plan on marriage it is every bit of your right to know how much he's making. You don't want to end up marrying a bum.

[OhLongJohnsoning]

I mean, it's gonna come out eventually, so, why he's not, I don't know

[hammeronfire]

No he doesn’t need to tell you how much he makes. Why should he