I don't get it why he keeps it as a secret... Is it OK to ask your boyfriend how much money he makes?
Here is my advice on this... you need to do you and be true to yourself. If this is something that really matters to you then yes, you should talk with him about it. I hear or have heard this thing all the time, that women do not care about how much a man earns, what type of car he drives and ext...
Well, I do not know honestly how much that all matters to women, but it matters to me. I am 47, I am looking at retirement very soon... like maybe 50 to 55... so depending on what type of relationship you want to have... you better believe it matters.
So, for me I like to know what they do for a living, where they live what type of things they like to do, what their interests are. All these things will tell you or give you an indication of what type of money they earn. But I have never got into specifics with a woman on her economic status, until the relationship reaches a point where it really matters... and by that time you have already have been to their place, you have ridden in their car, you see how they dress, you know if they are a person of class... so by that time you know if they are a quality person and/or a person of value to you. So, it does not really matter at that point, or you would of never of gotten to that point.
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It all depends, silver,
Could be ashamed as they have said it not to worry you because they belive they should carry all the worry of finance etc or
What you like and what he likes, for some they prefer to have some secrets about that as long as he does not act selfish when it comes to family matters,
A solution for this would be for both of you to have a family account either separately or 1 together, where the finance there is known to both of you and can be discussed.
He should be able to tell you how much he gets paid and if he is working any other works, but doesn't have to tell you how much all together he has.
And then they are people who prefer to know it all, that is both are on with it and see it as no issue at all, this is good as long as one of the partners won't be selfish and demand things from their partner when their own money is finished or see it as a way to call their partner wicked for saying no I domt have money for luxury at the moment.
It is a topic to take seriously and must be talked about with great understanding from both sides, if your partner is not into the topic then he is probably just keeping it a secret because of the second method, bring naked =forced to spend unnecessary = family poor.
He will surely provide for the family if he doesn't then it will be a concern.
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Someone else asked a similar question. I personally think that is a conversation you should have with your partner to see what you’re both able to afford if you ever move in together or get married. However I also think it is important to go over debts as well and look at what both of your spending habits are. If one person is responsible and the other isn’t, for example, it is better to know that early on so that you can prepare yourself and build better habits. Maybe also not share the bank account lol. I don't know. That was a conversation I had with most of my partners early on, sometimes I made more and other times they did but at least I knew what we both had to work with.
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I believe it’s either he’s poor and doesn’t want you to know, because he’s embarrassed.
Or, perhaps he’s rich, but he wants to make sure that you love him for him and not for his wallet.
Later in the relationship, he may open up about it. But, it would be weird to ask that at the beginning of a relationship.
It’s like if a guy asks a girl how many men has she slept with, it’s a bit personal of a question and can come off the wrong way.
If she wants to share that later, she’ll do it in her own timing.LOL no it's none of your business... i mean if you know what he does for a living then just google it and get a round about number.
In a serious relationship. each partner should share their economics with the other partner. It avoids nasty arguments over money, which is one of the most comment issues in relationships.
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Not if you keep your finances separate
Maybe he feels you will lose interest in him if he doesn’t like his income , and he is embarrassed to admit that’s all he is making , Most girls’ love guy’s with status and love to brag about how much her partner makes to her friends , Most guy’s don’t give 2 shits about status when it comes. to a girl he finds beautiful to his eyes that treats him well. Most Girls on the other hand do, they think it’s the most important thing to have a man that makes a shit ton of money , Sadly most girls’ will cheat on her man if she feels he doesn’t make enough , she will spread her legs for another guy that she feels has more status then her partner does. I am not saying every girl does this , but a majority of them do , sadly to say. So he is probably embarrassed and nervous to admit to you , what he actually makes , because he is afraid he might lose you. Look at all these Gold digger girls’ and whores that are prancing around looking for hand outs Females did this to themselves , why so many guy’s today do not want to get married , because most girls’ are selfish these days when it comes to commitment , if she doesn’t get her way she will run to another guy thinking he will save her , she is turned on by that other guy because of his status and what’s inside his wallet. Most girl’s today are never fully happy , they always thin grass is greener on the other side
The fact that information it is so important to you means this is red flag for him. He should view you with more suspicion for making a big deal about that. I know I would (I make decent money by the way)
You should already have a good idea of what he makes anyway. You can look at his career, how long he has been doing it, if he owns or rents, if he has been divorced, etc.
Now if you two were looking to get married this would be a different story. One of you could end up paying alimony if it doesn’t work out. That’s an appropriate time for that discussion but not when you are just dating.
Honestly I also find it sad, depressing and frankly gross that a grown ass woman 44 year old woman in modern times is making such a big deal about this. Really lady grow up. Quit looking at men as ATM machines with penises. Make your own f*cking money. Western society is literally rolling out the red carpet nowadays (over the top of men) to give women high paying careers.
He must have something going for him giving you are dating him. He probably gives of an appearance of being well off and you are wondering if he’s raking in mega bucks. I doubt you would ask this question (or even date him) if he was a working class average Joe.
If he is doing well then good for him. But he’s smart to keep his mouth shut. He’s probably testing you to see if you are a gold digger. If you are he will figure it out. Most rich guys have radar for that bullshit. So unless he’s 20 years your senior or something I wouldn’t get your hopes up.
@silver There's many reasons why he's not & many reasons why partners shouldn't.
If you're newly dated you're NOT entitled to the information
If you don't have a job yourself, you're NOT entitled to the information
If you constantly ask him for money, you're NOT entitled to the informationThis applies for both women and men.
If the boyfriend/girlfriend contributes little to the relationship then they are not entitled to know how much their partner makes. Because more often than not the contribute little is simply going to leech off the partner like a parasite.
Probably because he wants girl who just wants him. Whether his salary is low, average or high... he doesn't want a woman who is hyper focused on his pay. So, he takes that out of the equation. It is his money, not yours. He doesn't want to be with a woman who uses his money as an attraction trigger to decide whether she wants to be with him or not.
The fact you are so concerned about this missing info gives clues you could be the type of girl he is trying to weed out of his dating life.
While dating, especially in the begin I don't think it is anyone business. But maybe if you been dating for 5 years, planning to move in with each, get engaged or married. Then yes it would be ok to ask.
If some girl ask me how much I make when we first starting dating I would probably end it. She is either looking for you to become a sugar daddy, and pay for everything, or wants to be a gold digger, I would be skeptical of her in the relationship.
Now if she came out and told me what she males and ots more then I make I would have no problem.DuHHH!!!
Why the hell would he hide that from you unless he’s trying to be sneaky 😂 keep secrets. Or he’s buying shit for someone else. Spending money on someone else 😂
DA FUCKKKK. I don’t care if he’s poor or rich. You need to know.
It's not your business. You're only a girlfriend. I was engaged to a woman that didn't know how much I make because "well above enough" is sufficient. If I can handle the annual bills off a couple month's pay then how, functionally, is your knowledge of the precise spread actionable in any meaningful way?
You didn't say how long you've been together. In the early stages, I think it's common, even advisable, to not talk about such things.
"Is it OK to ask your boyfriend how much money he makes?"
NO !!!
Not unless you've been together a very long time and have long term plans. Wait for him to volunteer the info. You'll probably get some vague idea before then though. You should at least be able to figure out if he is dirt poor or not.I was with madame-ex for 10 years and, never once did I ask her how much she makes! All she ever told me was that she makes enough in just 2 or 3 nights (about 6 hours a night) to equal what most people make in a week so, she only had to work 2 or 3 nights a week. I doubt she ever asked me how much I was making at any of my jobs but, if she did, I really didn't care if she knew. But, if not knowing is cause for you to break-up then, you're plastic and shouldn't be IN the relationship, to begin with!! You're QUITE shallow, if that's what you base the relationship on!
I don’t see any reason to tell your partner how much you make unless you live together or for some reason share some kind of economy. But if you have a common budget for food or something like that I think that would be a good idea. Then you would know how much each person would be able to contribute to the budget
It's probably not necessary UNTIL you get to the point where you are considering moving in together or otherwise entangling your finances in some way. At that point, it's necessary to at least know that they make enough to cover their obligations.
Unless you two are married, no either one should have to disclose that.
Now if you guys are getting engaged, and going to spend the rest of your lives together and need to make plans and goals together regarding your finances then yes there should be full disclosure so you guys don't get in over your heads.It really depends. Some people don't mind, others really mind.
To me, I want to know especially when we have some shared finances like bills. It's important to have a fair split. I've previously out earned my partners, and thus paid proportionally more of our bills.
Plus I think it's important to me to be able to talk openly about finances and money with my partner.Any time a guy doesn't want to tell you how much he makes, that's an indication that he doesn't plan on spending a lot of money on you, which goes against everything I believe in regarding dating, in general. I believe that the number one reason to date a woman is to spoil her rotten. If I'm successful in accomplishing that, I think everything else will fall into place from there.
Personally, I never share my income or financial status with anyone I am either dating or in a relationship with. Unless I intend to marry that person has no need to know what my personal finances are.
My own family do not know what my income level is or financial situation. The only 2 other people who know anything about my situation is my CPA that handles my personal business and my financial advisor that helps me with my market trading.
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