It was my bfs brothers bday this past weekend and my boyfriend was insisting for me to pitch in for half of it (it was only 20$ nothing huge) however I wasn’t very keen on pitching in because his bro is always very rude to us - never says thanks or hello…even his wife told him off and to stop being so rude….
I was saying no but then my boyfriend persisted saying he would like me to cuz he thought it’s always 50/50 in a relationship…and he also wanted to save some money….
how do I politely refuse to pitch in for a gift in the future?
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Well first of all this doesn’t sound like a much of a relationship at all. From what you wrote you two keep your finances separate. Second doesn’t sound like he has much finances at all if he can’t purchase a $20 gift. I have 3 brother, 3 sisters. They all have kids. I manage to get them all something for their birthday as well as the kids for their birthdays as well as Christmas. I’ve never asked my girl to pitch in half. I’m sure he’s sped ing a lot of money on other bs that he doesn’t need. If he wants to save money than maybe he should cut out some of the other junk he spends his mo ey on. At the same time, is $10 really worth an argument once a year. I could see if it was a monthly thing, but it happens once a year. That’s up to you to decide.
Just say that you don't have the money. No further explanation required.
I should say I’m on tight budget?
If you really feel like you need to give a reason, sure. I would just say that I didn't have the money and leave it at that.
It's easy to forget that "no" really is a complete sentence.