"If I notice my partner or close friends are showing any signs of coldness, I panic and want to get closer as quickly as possible." Agree or disagree?

[Still-alive]

So for instance maybe they aren't responding to your texts or calls as quickly as they used to. They seem busier more often, or don't ask you to hang out as much as before. Does it make you want to get closer as soon as you feel like they seem like they are losing interest or getting cold on you?

Strongly Agree that does make me want to get closer as soon as possible

Agree

Disagree

Strongly disagree, i just let it happen. if thats how they feel about me so be it

I'm unsure

[Pyrofox]

To me I'd say try and figure out is it really cold ness or are they just worn out and need a proper rest. A lot of people lose their normal warmth when they are at the end of their rope/social battery. I got 3 nieces and its always amazing how when I figure out that they are at the end of their rope or their social battery is running dry something as simple as some warm tea can lull them to sleep to a degree they have drunk half their cup of tea and proceeded to pass out like nose first into the mug XD.

I've always been the one to kinda babysit others and I've realized sometimes you just gotta realize how to help others to just relax. We live in both 1st and 2nd world countries most of the time at 400% life speed. Which most of humanity is definitely not built for. Its like why QA game testers and programmers have such high burn out rates. Despite often having nice pay, perks and support structures.

[Foregone]

I am the kind of person than likes a quiet moment and some space. This can and has come across as cold. I am explaining this to say I would not look to pull them tighter and would instead give them what I would want in the moment. A chance to breath and think. If it becomes a larger trend I would look for signs of 1. depression or 2. Disinterest in me. If 2. I will confront them about it to discuss. If that goes nowhere I will likely start pulling away.

[thegreenyogi]

Disagree. I am not a particularly clingy person and I am of the belief that things go how they're supposed to go and if a relationship is meant to last it will. And if it doesn't I will move on and something better will eventually come along. So if a person gets cold I will wait patiently for either that person to say something or for the phase to pass by giving him space that he needs or allow nature to take it's course.

[Kelly6]

totally agree

[thegreenyogi]

@kelly6 Thank you!!

[thegreenyogi]

Thank you for the MHO!

[WhitneySnow]

That’s my first instinct but I fight it cause that only makes people retreat more

[provokeesmokee]

I used to be highly insecure and it ruined a lot for me.

I've since gotten therapy and healed from what made me so insecure.

Now I find the behaviors I previously held to be off putting, annoying, and clingy.

[Sparkie460]

I think it depends on what was going on in their life. Sometimes people just need time to themselves

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Strongly Agree