Is "love" REAL? It seems like just a word to get women and men to have sex, and then it ALL falls apart eventually?

[hardboiledink]

It seems like ALL relationships fail after the initial honeymoon period where a girl and a guy "fall in love." Do you think "love" is just a word to get people to have sex and having a kid is what should NATURALLY happen but since there's contraception it doesn't happen?

[crystalline0909]

Love is real absolutely. But nowadays people who are consistent start assuming it as love. But one bump on the road and everything falls apart then there's new love of there life after 3-6 months just like that.
True love doesn't happen so frequently.

Love will exist even without sex, inspite of every bad thing they have ever done, you won't be able to unlove them. There's no such thing as falling out of love, of unloving someone.
True love will stick with you even when you are bedridden for life. It's unconditional.
Like our parents do to us. Regardless what we do, how bad we are, even if we are useless they love us. They scold us, might even throw us out of the house but if you need a kidney they'll be the first one standing there, even if you had abandoned them in there hard time. Not because they gave birth to you, but because they love you. A lot of parents give up there child and leave cuz they don't love enough.

So you know it's true, when regardless the sea rises or sky falls they will stick with you.

[crystalline0909]

They can stay angry with you if you did something wrong, but see if they moved on or not... if they they love you just pissed at you

[hardboiledink]

I feel you, I've found then lost love.

[hardboiledink]

So your'e saying if they moved on it isn't love? Can't you still love someone then move on? I haven't though I think my ex girfriend has so is that NOT love?

[crystalline0909]

You can only love the next person more than the last one to be truly unconditionally in love. If you find yourself even missing or thinking about the last one, you don't really love the current person. You just attached. mature and healthy individuals don't really feel the need to find someone new to get over the last one. They heal themselves first in order to be totally fair and open to the next one.
No one wants to be a rebound. Why would a healthy balanced person do something to someone that they don't want to be done to themselves.
Nowadays people see people as disposable. The moment they start feeling better about themselves they discard the person and move on to the next one instead of staying and investing themselves into the connection. Or move back to the last one cuz they were clearly not over it. And were using the next connection as a distraction or rebound.
True lover can hate you, be pissed at you or might never come back to you not because they don't love you anymore but because they loved you so much that they wouldn't have done the same thing to you incase you screwed the relationship. Just like parents. Cuz there love is true. They can throw you out of the house but despite of every bad thing you have ever done, if you need a kidney, they'll be there.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

The thing about the word love in the English language is that despite it being universal for all things regarding love both platonically and romantically, romantic love is what’s often prioritized when using that word. People forget there are other forms of love, the greeks had 7 words for the 7 forms of love. The problem is people can't always understand the difference between eros - passionate, sexual love, and pragma - committed, companionate love. The two are obviously very different forms of loving someone and what people and women often believe is pragma with a man is actually eros. Why this is? There’s a ton of different theories regarding how men and women understand intimacy, how a lot of heterosexual men can’t tell the difference between physical and sexual intimacy, how women require an emotional connection before making a sexual one, and men require a sexual connection before making an emotional one, etc. but ultimately “love” is real but people often confuse or disregard the forms that don’t immediately serve this romantic sexual purpose.

[dynamicyandere]

Love is real. But love is also defined in so many numerous ways. If you ask 100 people what love is, you may get 100 different answers.


True love, as I know it, is very real. But, it is also very rare to come across. It is literally more precious than gold. And harder to find.


You can imagine everyone digging and everyone saying they’ve found gold.


Many of them will find fake gold.


Some of them will find impure gold.


Few of them will find pure gold.


And like finding pure gold, only very few will find pure love.

[love_conquers_lust]

It’s a commitment. Look no further than my relatives who stuck by their spouses upholding their vows. Except for my one shithead uncle, trades in his wife every 10-20 years because he can, fucker. But then there’s my godfather, the legend. He’s a doctor, met my aunt who was a nurse, a party girl, and a bit promiscuous. My uncle pretty much laid down the law and said if she wanted access to him, she was going leave that life behind to be a dedicated babymaker. Every time I see her she is surrounded by her 5 boys and smiling.

[thatshydork]

If love wasn’t real, then the divorce rates would’ve likely been way higher then they are now.

I believe in love because I see how my parents are to each other. My dad saves every lemon Greek yogurt even though he likes it because he knows that’s my moms favorite. My mom buys him things she knows he likes on random occasions just because. My dad never wanted kids until he met my mom. My mom didn’t want to get married until she met my dad. I’m lucky because my dad and mom have loved each other for over 33 years. I know that not everybody is as lucky as I was to grow up in such a happy home, but seeing my parents together tells me that love is real.

[lilaccc]

that's so sweet.

[hardboiledink]

Nice

[Lara_Croft]

God is Love. He is Real. So Love is Real. In an Eros context l, God created marriage so sex wouldn't be used as a weapon and so people wouldn't go haywire with sexual immorality masked as sexual freedom. We need God, we need Jesus. He created sex, he can better give us advice.

[hardboiledink]

Tyanks

[CubsterShura]

The idea of love that many people have is not real, but love itself is. If you expect love to be some kind of force that just takes you over and everything becomes dreamy afterwards because it rules out everything bad... Yeah sorry bud that's not real. But the conscious and active choice to be there for someone and make them happy and thriving, yes that's indeed real love.

[hardboiledink]

What if you love someone and want to make them happy, but they don't want to make you happy? Is that "love"

[CubsterShura]

You just have to accept that they don't love you back

[hardboiledink]

Exactly they don't love me so isn't love reciprocal and if not that isn't love? She thinks she's doing what's best for me

[RespectfulGuy]

Here in GaG, I always compare sex to food. Today, I'll compare love to money.

Yes, love is real, just like money is real. But both are difficult to acquire and can be lost in a whimp. Let's see the similarities:

1) money needs hardwork and intelligence to acquire and maintain.

So is love. One need to "win" the other person over to receive it "legally". Otherwise like scamming, the "victim" may make a police report.

This means sincerity and Honesty are needed to win love.

2) money can be spent wisely or unwisely.

Love too can be given to a cheater or a true lover.

And yes, many here unwisely gave their love to Cheaters and hence suffer brokenhearts.

Yet, I also read of happy comments of some who find real love here. These "spent" their love wisely.

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To conclude, yes, love is real. Like money, it takes wisdom to acquire and to give away without a broken heart.

[RingOfFire]

Don't go down that road bro. At about your age I had some of those same thoughts. I thought love was just some fake evolutionary instinct in brain chemistry to trick males and females to get together to have babies. It was a dark place.

I got passed it and learned that it is not that but its what connects us with the universe and eternal time. Life is not worth living without it.

[hardboiledink]

that's too ethereal. What do you mean? I SEE the results of a bunch of Homo sapiens who don't even deserve kids having them, then breaking up and divorcing.

Where is this love you're speaking about to see or observe or how do you do it practically? I see no evidence of love in this world where people are often $hit to eachother

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

Love is a feeling, and I also believe it is learned by noting examples of those close to you.
allowing yourself and your partner time to engage with each other well, not moving too quickly may help you figure out if it's the love that you're feeling or infatuation.

[dolemite58]

love is a made up concept, couples with solid relationships are the ones that both actively decide to make an effort to be good to each other. usually one person cares less and stops putting in effort.

[hardboiledink]

So if they STOP putting in effort is that not "love" was it just lust? My ex gave up and dumped me though even when she broke up she said she loved me

[dolemite58]

when a girl says she’s loves u it’s meaningless, girls have sex with and stay with guys they respect so she lost respect for u at some point

[Anonymous]

Yeah its real but its rare. When its real and genuine, “honeymoon” isn't just a “phase”, it lasts for a lifetime. People mistaken a lot of things for love, thats why its tainted.

[hardboiledink]

Yeah

[Joshydavid25]

Definitely real.. It's just that people mistake the selfless act of love as romantic or high strong feelings.. Those things fade, but the test of real love is when things get hard, after the honeymoon phase..

[Anemone978]

Love exists but most people fall in love with people who don't love them too

[love_conquers_lust]

We’re cruel to ourselves

[Anemone978]

@love_conquers_lust yup, sadly..

[love_conquers_lust]

^^^Look at my thread/comment. It’s not all bad.

[LiamJHayden]

I consider love to be the seeking of the best for another. By my definition, yes, it exists. What you describe seems to be "feelings." That will generally fail.

[overthinkergirl]

it’s real but it’s very hard to find true love.

[LazerBean]

Love is real, but most people won't find love.

[hardboiledink]

yup I see

[DextroShade]

It is real but it is rare, especially nowadays. Most people will never experience it.

[MissBoogus]

Uh no? Me and my partner have been deeply in love for 9 years , and I wouldn’t have engaged in sex if the love wasn’t there

[Tomisworthless]

Not for me I've only ever recieved hatred and rejection love is foreign concept in my life

[hardboiledink]

I'm feeling that right now. Women can be really hard

[Tomisworthless]

Truly cruel creatures only show kindness to people who are attractive

[Hanrej]

Depends on how you define love.

[hardboiledink]

How do you define it?

[Hanrej]

As a chemical release in your brain that causes a good feeling towards a person. If that's your definition it certainly exist.

But if you have a Hollywood inspired romanticized definition that makes love into something magical that lasta forever and ever and solves or ease your problems then no, it does not exist.

[whistlingwh0res]

It’s not real. If it’s real we won’t be in this website

[Benedikt_lol]

Lust is not love.

[jimmy2]

No he just wants sex then move on