Boyfriend refuses to get a cat and won't give me a good reason why?

[Anonymous]

I moved in with my boyfriend about 3 months ago and I brought up that I want to get a cat, I was never allowed to have one at my parents house because my mum has allergies so I accepted that but now that I'm with my boyfriend I figured I could have one but I brought it up and he said No, he doesn't want one, and won't give me a reason why, he said that no he doesn't want one is a perfectly valid reason but I said that's not a reason and he said well then how about this, it's my house, so I said no, he said getting a pet is a "two yes or it's a no" event, I think he's being a dick, am I right?

[Anonymous]

He’s not being a dick. His house, his rules. Respect them. What’s more important your relationship or a nasty ass cat? I don’t like cats either. They’re not good for much. Besides even though it’ll be your cat the responsibility is going to fall on him too because things happen. You get your period, you’re sick, you don’t want to clean up the cats litter or feed it. Hell no. Right now you’re a guest. Three months in if a girl was telling me this shit I’d tell her you better rethink about where you’re at.

[sheikalana]

No, he's not being a dick. You should respect his wishes you both live in the same house now and have to respect each other's space. Maybe you don't understand the responsibility of having a pet it has to be fed and you will need to clean the cat's litter daily perhaps he doesn't want to have that burden and responsibility and doesn't want to spend money on a cat. That's a very valid reason. I also wanted to have a cat but I'm not always home sometimes I travel for work and my husband said he's not interested in cleaning the cat's litter. I don't like the idea of my cat not having a clean litter for 2,3,4 days or more so the best decision is to not have a cat. I also have others friends that discouraged me after telling me that their cat destroyed their apartment and they get really worried when they have to travel for a few days a leave the cat alone.

[whereismyjohnny]

He is not being a dick. It should be a joint decision. Getting a pet together is a big decision and you shouldn't rush into it. Have you considered whether you are ready for the responsibility of owning a cat? Do you have enough time and the financial means to care for a cat? You should think it through and both agree on getting a pet.

[boggboss]

U have only been their for 3 months and want to get a pet bo u are jumping the gun on this one especially if u moved into his place I will say it sounds like he is being a asshole about how he is saying no but he has the right to not want one even on the baises of simply not wanting a cat

[Vesuvius87]

Not really. It's his house after all, you're just a girlfriend and therefore you're entitled to absolutely... umm. NOTHING. If you're unhappy with the arrangement then you would have to break up with your boyfriend, move out and find a new place to live.

[slatyb]

No, he's not, and you are not right. Having a pet in a house is a big deal. They have to be cleaned up after, and they frequently damage furniture and other goods. If you want a cat, then move back out to a place of your own. You should have brought this up before you moved in.

Anyway, I don't hear any love here. Just move out, get yourself a cat and a new boyfriend.

[slatyb]

He doesn't need "a good reason". He doesn't want to live with a cat. That's enough.

[HelpfulWoman]

"No is a complete sentence". A bit like kids, ANY resistance should mean don't get one. I don't think he's being a dick.

[admles]

He did give you a good reason - he doesn't want one.

He's not being a dick, and he's right, this is a "two yes or it's a no" situation.

Grow up.

[Tim2nice]

No. I wouldn’t have cats or any pets for that matter either. I love animals but they need looking after and leave smell and hair everywhere.

[zagor]

No. He has to live there too. I would be reluctant to get a cat, or, if I didn't have a yard, a dog.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Time to get a new boyfriend.

[Nuget]

Get a little doggy.