What are the most important boundaries to set in a relationship?

[smoke]

I believe that I have some problems with setting boundaries in a relationship. So, what kind of boundaries should a romantic relationship have for a healthy relationship? Do you have boundaries in your relationship?

[Peter_Penetrator]

Learn to pick your battles. Make a list of what your partner does that gets under your skin. Also, consider the things that their friends, family and if they have kids do that gets under your skin.


Then review that list and check off the things that absolutely needs to become a boundary. You may have a long list but you need to learn to live with certain issues or maybe excuse yourself from those situations that are most important to your partner. Let’s say that your partner’s mother gets on your nerves. Discuss it and work out a time when your partner and their mother can spend their time together and you can leave and go spend time doing something that would grate on your partners nerves.


When it comes to boundaries, you must negotiate the truly important ones and forget the petty ones.


If your partner refuses to respect those boundaries, run for the hills. You are in a relationship with a narcissist and narcissist refuse to respect boundaries and they will never change. Narcissist are always in the right, in relationships only for their benefit, and make everything your fault.


I lived with one and my narcissistic in laws for 18 unhappy years.

[MicroViewer]

Well first off, you gotta make sure she knows who's boss. That means setting rules for when and where you get your anal fix. No exceptions, not even during dinner at her parents'. But hey, I'm not one to judge. If you're into getting pounded while grandma watches, more power to you.

Secondly, make sure she knows not to interrupt your video gaming sessions. Ain't nothing worse than a chick nagging you to stop playing Fortnite just so you can give her some attention. Set that boundary hard and fast, bruh.

And finally, always remember to establish the rule that she must swallow. No exceptions. I mean, come on, why would you want her wasting perfectly good protein like that? It's disrespectful and frankly, a sin against nature.

Now go forth and conquer, young padawan. And don't forget to tell her how big your dick is - trust me, they love hearing that shit, @butthurttroll knows.

[Asimiv]

It depends on the person. We don't all have the same boundaries, so you have to figure out what your boundaries are.

But maybe some general ones would be never talking to or about each other disrespectfully. No lying. No accusing, always ask first about what happened. Etc.

And one that's big for me, even though I know many don't agree, is not snooping through each other's stuff, and that includes the phone. If you ask about sth, I will gladly show you on my own accord. But don't ask for it and don't snoop, otherwise I'll see it as a breach of trust

[IslaTheWitch]

There is no relationship without communication.

No forcing. There is time for everything, but that time can be different for each of us. We can talk when both of us are ready. We can have sex when both of us want it. Let's talk about our needs and preferences.

Respect.

No blaming. Our perspectives can be different, so let's learn to raise concerns and find solutions.

[ProbablyClueless]

Communication frequency and intimacy expectations. Boundaries about the amount of effort you expect from your partner. It's probably not a bad idea to indicate if there are subjects, topics, or situations that are off-limits for you.

[Jbear27]

You need to ask yourself what’s important to you. What are your deal breakers? What kind of things concern you when you’re with and away from your partner?

[thegreenyogi]

Respect and the ability to let go of an argument if its creating a toxic atmosphere and most importantly never just do anything to make your partner happy even if it's not something you really want to do just simply out of fear they'll walk away.

[HaveNoName]

In a MARRIAGE, boundaries are fine if they get set implicitly by understanding the other perons's likes and dislikes. If you SET boundaries as part of setting up rules, the marriage will be an unhappy one.

[colaman94]

Sex boundaries mannerisms boundaries, chores errands, where could I end lol 😆😂

[Grond21]

What is your understanding of what boundaries are? Do you know which ones to use, but you just struggle to implement?

[love_conquers_lust]

Ones that you can keep so you can rely on one another

[Nikki1989]

Give your partner space when she or he needs it.

[LiamJHayden]

For me, "no cheating or other betrayal" tops the list.

[jimmy2]

Love Jesus first before you're self
Love spouse next
Love yourself
Love your children

[PreciousJewel]

No lying

[colaman94]

No cheating/no taking advantage of each other's kindness 💘🙏 😉

[colaman94]

Good answer above 👌🏻