After watching this video i wonder what a girl would really do for a partner she loves so if your partner became paralyzed and you had to change his diaper would you still find him sexy? I don't think i could both be a caretaker to my partner and bath her change her diaper and still find her sexy maybe i'm a bad person for thinking so but i'm just being honest
This should be geard to both men and women. Since my caregiver was my boyfriend.
We were physically apart for three years after a relationship where we both feel IN love with each other.
After three years he came back to live with me. I had kept telling him I was sick during our telephone conversations. He came up and we talked about him being my caregiver.
Then he left, didn't come by at all the next day. But the day after that he moved in and took care of me for the first year he was here then he met someone he hit it off with in my apartment building. That was really hard on me to deal with him leaving me here alone and needing help. He promised me all the time he wouldn't ever leave me and that he was my Procter.
Standing next to my bed when he was about to leave me he said "I love you" two times in a row. I didn't say it beach. Then he asked if I love him. I replied "It's hard to love someone that tells at you all the time" what he had recently started when that other woman came into our lives. So that night he spent the night in an empty apartment in our building. He wasn't coming home to me.
The next morning he died from fentanyl POISONING. So, neither of us got him.
P. S.
He was a caregiver to his wife for 12 years when she became sick 🤢. Then she died. I met him 20 years after her death. He stuck by her till the end.
He was a caregiver to his 80 year old mother and he moved in with her to be her caregiver until she went to a nursing home for three years. He stated by her side too.
If I was as healthy and strong like him, and my girlfriend whom I love became disabled I would stay with her and take care of her. Because nothing feels worse than being disabled and your boyfriend that promised he'd never leave me, then left me is one of the worst feelings a person can live through.
Please don't leave.
That's a though one.
However, I don't think you're bad for thinking that way, because if you met them in a different state than they are in at that point, you probably hadn't envisioned yourself having to take care of their hygiene and what not.
But if I were to date someone, and get to fall in love, and then get to spend my life with them, I will undoubtedly do my very best to make the most out of it, whatever the situation.
In the end, I'd imagine myself growing old and maybe have a partner who'd become demented, I still wouldn't want to leave them behind, solely because they can no longer take care of themselves. I will most likely not be able to take care of myself at some point in life either, I'd hate it if I was left for that reason.
It will probably take a fucking toll on your mental health to have to take care of an adult, but that's something I would take into consideration before I start my entire lifelong journey with them.
Bút I do believe, once you learn that the relationship is only wearing you out, without you gaining anything out of it... you might leave, not because you don't love them but because you love them too much not to offer them the attention and care and patience they deserve.
However, still, with the person I have in mind - reading this question - I don't think I be able to to leave them if anything alike ever happened.
I would support him. I don't know if I would still be attracted to him. Possibly no. But I would help him as much as I can until he gets caretakers if that's what he wants. I would always be an emotional support. But you can't control what you are attracted too.
I worked for a kid with SMA before. (Muscle disease makes you weaker and weaker until you can't breath anymore). So I worked like that before.. It's sad but I don't think I'd stop caring for him if it happened to my future husband.
s I would stay. I’m in love with HIM, not his bodily functions. Ofcourse there would have to be a boundary though, otherwise it will become mentally draining and unhealthy. I could not be a full time nurse or caretaker for him. That’s not fair for any partner to have that responsibility. He would need to have a caretaker to help throughout the weeks, I will happily aid him around that.
Nope. Only one person I would, that's it. Everyone else, no, I'm not a nurse or a caretaker. Same for me. If I get paralyzed, just kill me and be done with it
I would look after my husband, until he dies, I would motivate him everyday to help him get better. But I can’t think of sexy any other way than being physically attractive so maybe I’ll remember him when he was.
I'd stay by his side if I truly loved him (like, if we were married I wouldn't desert him over that) but having to be his caretaker would put a lot of stress on the reationship
I'd have to stay with them if I am in love with them. If jot it wouldn't be fair on either of us to stay with someone I do not love, they would deserve to be looked after the one who loves them.
I would do whatever it takes to look after my husband.
I think it depends on how he treated me before he got paralyzed
nope i will bounce
I don't think I could abandon them, no.
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