Men, what would make a woman good enough for you to not cheat or leave her?

[Anonymous]

What can she do that makes her worthy of love?

[Anonymous]

Men wonder the same thing about woman... and it's a skizm of our our times.. we're perpetually playing tit for tat as as we jump relationship to relationship... we forget what our responsibilities are as partners to one an other... we are often don't take enough time between partners to heal or to analyze our experience in detail that reflect both perspectives what went right . wrong.. our part.. our role.. etc
Bottom line we have to approach each new beging with a clean slate... open mind.. relaxed attitude.. taking time to get to know each other. N really pin point what you n them are all about.. it important to make up your own mind draw your own conclusions.. based on your virtues and critical thinking.. to get an understanding of that person on your own based on your perceptions for the most part. To often friends social groups n such have more influence on us than they should n our desire to fit in and be accepted we don't dare upset or destabilize our environment for fear of backlash... that diminishes our status amongst peer groups.. so with that said all past experiences shape us to a degree.. our mindset tends to get jaded n fixated on negatives n we make comparisons to past n present situation with quite irrational unsubstantiated reasoning we misjudge people
And find reasons excuses as to why we should be suspicious of them their story.. actions behaviors.. cause we were hurt in the past.. we unfairly connect dots.. dismiss sincerity of information we recieve cause we make incorrect assumptions n draw bias conclusions.. our fear of being mislead automatically puts us in a state of distrust.. and any corrective action similarly end up doing more harm than good... people are as simular to each other as they can be miles apart.. we got to recognize our selves our flaws our pros our cons. What's our weakness what we ve done wrong what we can do better.. before we enter into new relationship only to revive the demons of the past to infect the potential of a new beginning..

[dynamicyandere]

I believe with people, it’s a spectrum.


Those with the strongest moral integrity would never cheat, no matter what. (e. g. Loyal to the very end, no matter if that was reciprocated or not.)


Those with moderate moral integrity, may cheat, but only in very harsh conditions. (e. g. They’re in a very dysfunctional relationship and their needs are chronically being ignored.)


Those with poor moral integrity will cheat on a whim. (e. g. There’s nothing wrong with their partner. But, they’ve come across someone more attractive, there’s a opportunity to cheat, and they take it.)


So if you find a man (or woman) with very strong integrity, you won’t ever have to worry about cheating.


But, if your partner has more of a moderate level of integrity, then be sure to always treat them well and be a good partner so that they don’t ever feel like they need an escape from you. Have a healthy and happy relationship and you’ll be fine.


If your partner has poor moral integrity, well, there’s nothing you can do. They will cheat if they come across an attractive person and have an opportunity to do so. It’s best not to be with these people to begin with so it’s important to get good at weeding them out.

[dynamicyandere]

The best you can do is to be a good partner.

The rest relies on your partner to be a good partner.

(Which is why picking a good partner, in the first place, is critical.)

[Chandelier8]

I actually agree with you. Shocking.

[dynamicyandere]

@Chandelier8 I’m glad we agree on this. 🥂

Though, I believe that most of my answers well-thought-out and reasonable, hence my high MHO.

Have you disagreed with many of my perspectives in the past?

[dynamicyandere]

answers are*

[Chandelier8]

I'm sorry, I didn't mean that as a personal attack. I know how things can be online and people often take things personally due to toxic interactions. I just mean, I am pleasantly surprised that I agree with a male, here, as so many are indeed misogynistic.

[dynamicyandere]

@Chandelier8 Ah I see. I appreciate the apology and disclaimer.

Yeah, I understand what you mean. There’s a lot of guys online who are misogynistic.

There’s this battle-of-the-sexes online that seems to have been intensifying over the last several years, revealing extremists on both ends of the spectrum (woman-hating men or man-hating women).

I miss the time when there was less hostility and more harmony.

But, the best we can do is march to the beat of our own drum and be sensible ourselves, despite being surrounded by so many who are less-sensible.

[Chandelier8]

Yeah, a lot of women have a huge problem being sold off to old men as child brides, or forced to wear burkas and whipped. That sort of makes women angry. The muslim brotherhood is alive and well online.

[dynamicyandere]

@Chandelier8 Damn, what you described sounds exactly like what’s portrayed in the Netflix series called ‘Caliphate’ which portrays what women go through under the ISIS regime. When men online see eye-to-eye with how terrorists treat women, that’s a serious problem. It shouldn’t be that way.

[Chandelier8]

Thanks, I'll check it out.

[dynamicyandere]

You’re welcome. 🙂

I thought it was a pretty well-done series. It’s good at portraying how a recruiter can manipulate people into joining ISIS, and the reality of life under their ‘Caliphate’.

Just to be clear though, I’m not saying that all Muslims are terrorists, as I know both men and women who are Muslim that would never condone the kind of treatment you described.

But, it’s sad to see such treatment of women being promoted by those online who blindly follow misogynistic ‘influencers’.

[Chandelier8]

I completely agree that all Muslims aren't terrorists but they ALL support pedophilia, since the Muhammed, the founder was a pedophile, who married a 6 year old girl and that is emulated throughout the Muslim world.

You need to watch this guy, you won't regret it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P3YuywyjFeo

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P3YuywyjFeo

[Chandelier8]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P3YuywyjFeo

[Anonymous]

Unless you're being a truly horrible person, it probably has nothing to do with you. Some people just aren't monogamous. Some people are more focused on what they want than how it will hurt you. I dated a guy who said I was the perfect partner, and I was better in every way than any woman he cheated with. so, why did he cheat? He wanted the ego boost from other women when his career and college classes were all failing. He hid it all from me, because he as afraid I would leave if I found out.

Every time he got the chance to cheat, he thought "I may never get a chance like this again. What she doesn't know won't hurt her." Until it all blew up in his face in the end. Even when I did not know, it was hurting us. It hurt our intimacy. It made it so looking back every memory was built on a lie. He put my health and safety at risk and betrayed me every day by lying. We stopped being best friends.

He said none of the girls he cheated with were worth it. He doesn't remember the details anymore, he remembers the massive fallout from it. If he could go back int he past and punch himself in the face and stop himself then he would.

[Screenwriter]

Does only the woman have to be good enough? I would expect that the man has to be good enough too. And the two suited to each other.

No man needs to cheat on his partner unless there's something wrong with HIM. Dissatisfaction with a relationship doesn't automatically mean a man cheats or leaves.

Well-paired people work through rough spots. The point is to spend enough time getting to know each other before setting up a long-term relationship.

[Finchie40]

If she prioritizes me the same way a prioritize her , if she has a good heart and good morals and stays loyal and faithful , and doesn’t withhold intimacy and affection for long periods of time with out valid reasons and doesn’t make it all about herself , Most Girls’ don’t value intimacy and affection like guys do , and sadly that’s why she gets dumped or cheated on , when the relationship turns one sided , her way or no way , Me personally would never cheat or leave a girl that kept me satisfied and loved and wanted that doesn't make me feel like I have to beg for intimacy and affection constantly , Girls that do that are just digging their own grave. Most of us
Men express our love to her through intimacy and affection , it’s our way to feel close to her , When she decides she is no longer in to mood when it was never an issue before , she is digging her own grave because she is only thinking of herself , and sadly that’s why most guys cheat or leave her for someone else. Fir a girl to keep a guy loyal and loving to her she has to learn how to remove selfishness and learn how to not be so negative and mean and bitchy all the time , A guy doesn’t want to come home to a girl that is constantly negative about every little thing , a girl that has a list of a shit ton of things to be completed for her to maybe get onto the
Mood , when she can’t appreciate all the other things he has done for her and finds flaws in him , I have experienced this and witnessed this plenty of times to the point where this is one of the main reasons a guy walks away or cheats

[OlderAndWiser]

A woman does not need to do anything to "earn" my faithfulness. Men do not cheat because a woman "deserves" it, just like women don't cheat because a man deserves it. People cheat because it is exciting, they have the opportunity, they place no importance on honoring their promises. . . and all of this is an indication of a serious character flaw. I don't cheat, and I have never cheated, because it is important for me to know that I am a man who honors his promises.

As for leaving her. . . if I fell in love with her and asked her to be in an exclusive relationship with me, then I won't quit as long as she is faithful to me and continues to make a good effort to keep our relationship working.

[caring__1]

Feel good about herself and how that adds to the relationship.

Take my feelings into consideration before saying or doing anything.

Seek no more than she brings to the relationship.

Never assume, blame, criticize, demand, rationalize, yell or tell others what they should or shouldn't feel, do or believe.

Have a good balance of responsibility and playfulness.

Prioritize making sure both of us always feel safe, secure and special.

Prioritize clear, concise, open, honest communication.

[Sonorous]

Well for me, not cheating would be the easy part. Her simply being my partner would make her good enough for me to be faithful.

But when it comes to leaving a partner, many things could make her not good enough for me to stay. Legit think of any behaviors that could be detrimental to the health of a relationship & they could all be good reasons for leaving.

[Lionman95]

If I was able to have a deep emotional connection with her and I enjoy being around her there´s a fundament for a long relationship. I need to see a future with her meaning I can see a way how we keep a relationship in a distant future because of shared values and goals.
I can´t promise I won´t cheat or leave a woman but I can promise that I will try to avoid it. If we have a deep connection and enjoy being around each other with a common goal and vision for our future. I´m ready to do my part.

[Asker]

The first part of what you said about cheating scares me. If someone were to say that to me, I’m out.

[Lionman95]

I understand that. The issue is just that I can´t control the future. I can only try to avoid it but I can´t say it will never happen.

[Asker]

Is being loyal really that hard? I can’t imagine hurting a loved one purpose.

[dudeinohio]

Loyalty isn't hard at all.

[Lionman95]

It´s not hard now but I can´t tell you what happens in 15-20 years. I can try to minimise the risk but I can´t completely take away the risk that something bad happens.

[Asker]

I was talking to a guy on here and he said he cheated on his wife of 20 years. And they have two kids.
He cheated with another married woman who also had kids. He said both weren’t happy and that’s why they cheated.
Saddest part is everyone around them, including their kids, knew about their affair.
I asked him what his wife did to deserve to be cheated on. He told me she didn’t do anything.
That right there tells me that the punishment of loving someone you trust is betrayal.

[Asker]

She made their house a home. She loved him throughout the years they’ve been together and that was her punishment.

[Asker]

I just find it sad that people can give you their trust and you just break it right in front of them. And you stand in front of them smirking and watching them cry with a shattered heart while yours is black and empty.

[Lionman95]

I agree with you that´s something I also don´t like in modern society. People feel like they walk out of an agreement because it doesn´t feel right anymore. Instead of trying to improve the situation they just look for the next best thing. But that´s not what I was thinking of. I was rather thinking of a situation where for instance my girlfriend or fiance sees me with another woman talking or being close in public. I wasn´t referring to a developing affair like in your example.

[CalmUntilAbused]

No woman should need to do anything to discourage Her man from cheating on Her - it's basic human decency not to cheat, so I guess all She can do is not to cheat on Him Herself, as cheating on Him might trigger a revenge mechanism in Him.

As for what a woman can do to encourage Her man to stay with Her... She can simply make Him feel good with Her. Comfort Him, make Him feel useful and loved. It's true that men are usually hardwired to be warriors, but even warriors do need some downtime from time to time, otherwise they will go crazy, and a warrior gone crazy is definitely a threat to be wary of. If You can make Your man feel loved and comfortable, He will have no reason to leave You. The only reason a man could find to leave a woman is if He finds Her to be just another battle He is forced to fight, and to fight it exactly when He does need some downtime.

[robhazelnut]

Honestly, if I'm incapable of providing everything necessary for the bodily health of her and our potential children, then I'm unsuitable.

As for her, it's not about doing something. It's not lying to me, not repeating a request, not trying to command me, not spraying the huouse with poisonous chemicals, not calling on the state for resources, not poisoning herself with garbage, adhering to the non-aggression principle and agreeing with me, in her own mind, about what counts as a living being.

[robhazelnut]

Clarification- I assumed that by "love" you meant a potentially lifelong romantic relationship, and answered as such.

[robhazelnut]

Cheating is not in my toolbox. That just makes thongs worse for everyone, every time.

[robhazelnut]

Sigh, things.

[Flatmanlewis]

That’s kind of a trick question. It’s kind of an irrelevant one since I simply do not cheat. Never have. Never would.


I believe no matter how good a woman is (or is not) a cheater will cheat. That’s what they do. Men who just will not cheat for their own moral reasons, just don’t. There is probably a large “gray area” in between of men who are not likely to cheat but could be driven to it. I suppose a toxic woman can easily make that happen. Also, some men are weak, and if a straight up beauty Queen came along and decided she was going to seduce that man, it may be easy to wear them down.

[AaronKrieger]

Here's what I've learned about it so far in my life: relationships are about timing and people change.
You can be compatible with someone, but they could be in a completely different point in life than you, so it doesn't work out. Hell, that's half the reason why my parents got divorced, as one was a decade older.

People grow differently in their rate of growth and in what ways. So it's not about what makes a woman good enough, but a lot of is luck. Also, try to look for compatibility in where you both are in life and want out of it.

[syncheart]

No matter what Women are not perfect, and they are hard to live with. For example, My dad has never cheated on my Mom, but Mom has not always been very nice to me or my dad. She gets upset at really small things. It is not uncommon for me to get yelled at multiple times a day just doing common normal things, that are not even wrong to do. I even get yelled at for going to the bathroom. Believe it or not, my Mom is the best woman in my life! The other women in my life are extremely finicky. They are worse then my mom because at least with my mom I don't need to worry about her leaving me. The other women, if I just happen to say the wrong thing, the friendship might be dead in just a minute and we never talk again.

[Chandelier8]

Why was your mom so unhappy?

[syncheart]

@Chandelier8 good question! She's a mystery.

[Chandelier8]

She would be a mystery if you never considered her point of view and asked her.

[syncheart]

@Chandelier8 My mom snaps over the stupidest things. For example, if you close a door a little to hard she will snap at you. Or if you accidentally drop something she will snap at you. That is just the way she is.

[Chandelier8]

Still you've never asked her why, have you? That's all I really need to know about you.

[syncheart]

@Chandelier8 Yes I have, her answer is she doesn't like stuff about us. And it isn't stuff we can change for her.

[Asker]

Do you know if by chance she has dementia or Alzheimer’s?

[Asker]

Or do you think she never liked any of you from the moment your dad and her got together? There are people like that but they rather stick around because they get off from your misery.

[syncheart]

@sasha0426 For as long as I can remember my mom has always been kinda like this. She got worse after menopause. Also a year ago she got shingles for the second time, and is still trying to get over it too. So yeah she has got some additional problems.

[syncheart]

@sasha0426 I said that she doesn't like stuff about us. I didn't say she doesn't like us. She gets annoyed really easily with me and Dad. But her moods with us swings around. Sometimes she is supper nice and other times not nice.

[iFarted]

For me it's about our communication, what we want in life and if we're even compatible to begin with.

If we don't have good communication then we'd have a lot of assumptions and misunderstandings. If we want different things in life, for example she doesn't want kids nor a house cuz she wants to live the Van life and travel while I want to buy a house and have a stable stationary life with kids then it wouldn't work.

I don't think we should change who we are or what we truly want to make a relationship work. We should compromise as long as it isn't changing the core of who we are.

[Anonymous]

First of all, not doing this. Guys, Men-married for quite a while- when you start hearing no way more than yes at home-how does that make you feel? ?

Being the woman who makes her man feel lucky to have her is the answer. How to do that will vary from man to man, but its usually some combination of making him feel loved, valued and appreciated, going above and beyond to satisfy him in the bedroom, and being a loyal partner.

Both partners should put the other's needs before their own. That is a recipe for a successful and lasting marriage/relationship. But it only works when BOTH partners do it.

[NathanDavis]

my faithful and loyalty are not conditional... I just am

my integrity and character on this aspect does not depend on others, it's just how I am

now, if the other person starts doing some really bad things out of nowhere... then I would just finish that relationship, I would not just go and cheat around

[bededazzle]

she wouldn’t have to do anything for that. it’s like asking what would a child have to do for you to not abuse them.

[bededazzle]

for cheating that is

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Jesus that’s a depressing way to frame that, as if it’s the woman’s fault he makes that decision.

[slatyb]

Not cheat -- I don't cheat.

Not leave -- It's a question of compatibility, not of being "good enough". There are plenty of perfectly fine women who aren't the one for me for one reason or another.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I'm not going to cheat on a bad one either; I'll end the relationship first. I usually leave when the disutility you provide outweighs the utility. If you bring more drama than peace then there's no cause to keep you around.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

What would u consider drama?

[BoopBoopBeep]

@PrettyCrumblBb anything. I mean you know what that meas. If I don't have peace at home you're not going to be part of my life

[PrettyCrumblBb]

I guess if you marry someone who gossips a lot and tells you, you do everything wrong?

[BoopBoopBeep]

@PrettyCrumblBb Yeah she'd be gone. Though I also wouldn't have married a person like that.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Yeah people that gossip are annoying. I wouldn't even date a guy like that. And definitely not a guy that is always nit picking everything I do.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@PrettyCrumblBb I don't keep that kind of negativity in my life for long.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Yeah. I just stop talking to them.

[Anonymous]

The first part is kind of disrespectful tbh. Men cheat on great women all of the time, so when a guy doesn't cheat, it's says more about what kind of MAN HE IS and less about what kind of woman she is.

Short answer to the last part, I'll stay and would take a bullet for her if I would be proud to watch our future daughter grow up to be exactly like her.

[Anonymous]

If a guy is a cheater then he's going to cheat. There isn't a damn thing any woman can do to stop him.

All you can do is take a guy who isn't a cheater and not turn him into one.

[Asker]

If he turns into one, then he had all the intentions to cheat from the beginning. He would leave instead of being a coward.

[Opinion Owner]

Spoken like one who is truly ignorant.

Guess what Princess? Sometimes a man can't just leave. Maybe there are children involved. Maybe he lives somewhere where divorce laws unfairly favour women. I will stop at two reasons because I don't want to over tax your brain but there are other possible reasons.

[Asker]

@Opinion Owner Ok, then I’ll cheat too. It’s only fair 🤷‍♀️

[Opinion Owner]

You deserve what you get.

[Asker]

What reason would I give him to betray me?

[Wood3nWhal3]

Maybe I'd know if there wasn't so much dang crazy big booty out there asking to be tamed. They should definitely have more respect for themselves instead of doing everything I say in my opinion but I'm not really the judgmental type though...

[Asker]

I’m getting weird vibes from you.

[Wood3nWhal3]

Weird is cool, strange is not cool. I do like satire. I really like satire.