*why does he do that?* *baby daddy* *EX lover*?

[Needtoknow30]

So I’m just asking for a friend 😏
Why does my ex of 10 years the father of my son call me to come pick me up to come over and tell me all these things like he loves me, still wants me, is going to marry me, and says that there is no one else in this world he will love as much as he loves me. That he wants us to work and our family to be together but then literally the next day he a complete a** to me (with me doing nothing wrong) to change his mind that fast. I just don’t understand why he would waste both of our time to say things like that but then completely change up the way he feels or acts. HELP!

[Avicenna]

Well, is he trying to have sex with you or get you do agree to or do something? It's manipulative what he's doing. He's showing himself to be too unreliable for anything like marriage anyway.

[Needtoknow30]

Yes we were intimate but he knows I love him and would have done it even if he wouldn’t have said all that yk. So I don't know 🤷‍♀️ it’s so confusing and hard to deal with

[Avicenna]

Is it possible that you haven't set some boundaries here? Let him know what you want, ask what he wants tell him and what you really don't want him to do.

[Ironic_Method]

Because it worked at least once, maybe it'll work again.

[Anonymous]

I don't know but my man also goes through these crazy mood swings so I feel you… I guess they’re just emotionally immature, it’s confusing being with someone who’s so hot and cold

[Needtoknow30]

It is definitely confusing asf I mean we’ve had our ups and downs throughout our 10 yr relationship but have been split up now for about 7-8 months and he has done this like 2-3x’s in that time period. So I don't know if he does this to try to hurt my feelings or what… Its very emotionally traumatizing and mentally exhausting! Uggggh

[Opinion Owner]

I can imagine… but all I gotta say is, try not to believe his words too much. Judge him based on his actions instead

[Anonymous]

Maybe he’s bipolar

[Needtoknow30]

I think he is. I’ve tried telling him he needs to see a dr but he doesn’t believe he is

[Anonymous]

He is a man, he is lying.

[Needtoknow30]

But why? I just don’t understand the thought process of men sometimes! Like why say all those things to me if you don’t really feel those things toward me yk? Its bullsh*t

[Anonymous]

Tell her to go to counseling with him