My boyfriend is so good to me but I always get intrusive thoughts that he’s cheating, how to stop them?

[Anonymous]

It’s unhealthy.. I've gone on the dating app we met on again just to check and see if he was still on there.. but he isn’t. I don’t think he’d have enough time in the day to cheat though he still talks to his ex of 4 years which concerns me

[DreamCrescent]

hi, girlie

if you’re having these thoughts, something is going on. not saying he’s cheating, not saying he’s not.

but you don’t trust him. that’s a problem. and it’s surefire relationship detriment

you can’t just turn these feelings off but try to sit with yourself and understand them. has he failed in earning your trust. are your trust issues stemming from somewhere else and aren’t to do with him? is there a reason for the suspension? what needs to happen for your mind to be at ease

deep down you may have the answers. but only you know, no one can tell you where your insecurities come from or what to do about them

[sheikalana]

No wonder why you keep having those thoughts. He may be a great guy but keeping in touch with his ex while in a relationship is disrespectful. If they don't have any child in common is unacceptable that he's still in touch with her.

[Anonymous]

Learn to be more secure with yourself and also be more self confident.

[Anonymous]

You sound insecure and paranoid.