I’m totally not ready for a baby but I wouldn’t be mad or abort the baby if I got pregnant?

[Anonymous]

I’m 19 and my boyfriend is 24.. we don’t have our own place but if something were to happen I think I’d want to raise it. Is this normal or? Like part of me wants it to happen

[Oliverlogan263]

Sis, I totally understand the feeling of wanting a baby even when you know the timing isn't right. Those maternal instincts can be so strong. But having a kid is a HUGE responsibility that you really need to plan for.

You're so young still - enjoy your youth and focus on yourselves right now. Trust me, you'll have plenty of time later for all that mom stuff. If you got pregnant accidentally now, it could completely derail your life goals. Think about finishing your education, getting careers on track, being able to financially provide for a child. Those things will set you up to be the best mom possible later.

I'd say use contraception until you're totally ready. An unexpected baby will create a LOT of challenges and stress you may not be prepared to handle right now. There's nothing wrong with waiting a little longer. Your future child deserves parents who are 100% ready and committed to being there for them.

Follow your heart, but also listen to your head. The baby fever will pass - you've got your whole life ahead of you. This stage is about you growing into an independent woman. Your time will come, I promise! Keep having fun for now sis.

[Berethor]

I think if you old enough to have sex then you should be old enough to be a mom. :)

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Good_Girls_Avoid_Abortion

[KittygosMeoWW]

Having a child is so hard and has to be taken seriously, that being said it’s the most rewarding experience you’ll have in life. As a mother your life will completely change and simple things like eating and going to the bathroom alone will come second to your baby.

[IrishStewed]

Are you asking because you take no precautions against an unwanted pregnancy?

[Asker]

No I have an IUD but part of me wants to have a baby with him now.. it’s strange

[IrishStewed]

It's only strange if it is unplanned and you can't financially support a child now.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Nah sounds like motherly instincts are kicking, you are a woman and seems like you crave to reproduce which is somewhat normal, although I wouldn't say it's a smart idea if y'all don't have your shit together yet, but surely don't let go of that feeling, just postpone it for later on and until y'all are in a better position, use protection.

[LazerBean]

Of course it's normal. Mothers killing their babies is what is not normal.

[Danny_dan92]

Just know what having a child means