Mad at me for making friends?

[Anonymous]

I want to start off by saying that this all happened within the span of a day. For some backstory, me and my boyfriend have never had any major issues before this. I am a straight female and am only attracted to males. I had met some females at a local coffee shop and we started talking about work, life, the usual things. It was nice because I don't have many friends and I struggle with making them. My boyfriend saw this happening and got angry with me. I tried talking it out with him, I said I want to be able to make friends and not feel isolated, but in response he told me that I was choosing making friends over him and how he wasn't enough friend for me. Continuing on, he told me he didn't want to be with me anymore and left, I cried over it and am sitting at home now, but when I tried texting him, he told me goodbye, and I haven't heard from him since. I feel like I'm going insane, I care about him so much and am at a loss of what to do.

[DevikaButts95]

Tough pill to swallow, but think you dodged a bullet. Everything he just did there is grade A manipulation and controlling. What he did is not just a red flag, it's a red flare in the middle of dark forest at night.

He's trying to isolate you from being able to have friendships with anyone else, literally even told you so, to keep you trapped to him. Now he left you to further hurt you, so when you guys get back together, either by you begging or him coming back, you won't try to make friends because he'll just leave. If this isn't abusive behavior already, it's borderline abusive. Your boyfriend is a bad dude, and has just started to reveal his true colors, and I would recommend blocking him. If he can't handle you making friends, he can't handle being in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

If this was so important, you wouldn't be texting.

[Anonymous]

Let him go. Sounds like a bullet you dodged. I can see if he didn’t want you to be friends w a certain group of women. Let’s say ones who were all single, went clubbing on the weekends, drinking, etc. But I don’t even think you’ve gotten to know these women you were talking to. I think you’re better off finding a new man. He sounds controlling, insecure in more ways than one.

[aceleon]

if those friends were male i would say he is right but why give a damn if she makes female friends? only reason i could think is because he fears they might make you get out of track but aside from that isn't it better to have your girl have girl friends? this way you don't have to be always give attention to her when you are not in the mood.

[Avicenna]

Let him cool off and see if he's willing to talk

[laly520]

very toxic attitude of him