Why do you have a low opinion of marriage?
And I think marriage has been underthreat since the 60's up.
Nothing wrong with it my opinion. There's good and bad about it, like it shows your true commitment to someone. Never anything wrong with that! People these days have become TOO SELFISH and SELF SERVING to think about anyone but themselves. When the going gets tough, they look for the first door out. Hate to tell it but life ain't always peaches and cream. There will be GOOD days and bad. There will be CANCER, there will be a MISCARRIAGE, there will be a son or daughter that dies before their time through a car accident or illness, etc. There will be TEMPATION to CHEAT on your lover or spouse, and there will not be a chance to get caught, only your subconscious and your love and commitment to your spouse will be what stops you. There will also be holding your girlfriend and then later on your fiance's hand and knowing you've got each other's back and can tackle the world's problems together. You will be HOLDING her hand during labor when she gives birth to what may be your only son or daughter. They will have your looks as well as your partner's looks (or that of your ancestors and hers). You can buy a house together and raise your children together and when you hit middle age, you can retire around the same time and go on vacations together like my parents did many times over. Yeah, maybe, if unlucky, one of you guy's pass away before the other, but in that sense, at least you know that you were kind and loving and committed to your spouse before they went. You can date again in due time after many months/years of grief but you will also be thankful that you have loved and WERE loved that deeply.
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because some peoples whole personality is the fact that they're married and are a husband or a wife. so they take it as a personal insult. it's ridiculous i know
Despite liking marriage, as I see it as a declaration that the person is expressing absolute commitment, I also don't have anything against people that don't like it. I've seen people get married, just to reveal that they were having an affair the whole time or break it as soon as they get married as if the person didn't mean anything at all. I've also seen people be together for their lifetime without it.
Besides the benefits provided by certain laws depending on government, I don't see why they should get married besides personal beliefs. Granted, many things that I presented are beliefs of mine and thus is preaching. Rather than do what they can to make problems go away, such as working with their partner, they just go for someone that's more than willing to destroy what another has made. It isn't that person's job to "provide comfort" - they should get their own partner or fuck buddy.
The problem with belief systems people think everyone should be like them - and to some extension, myself. I don't think going outside of a relationship is right, even separation still falls underneath that. I think people should end it. Take religion for instance. Many people have the doctrine that someone should follow my ways or be eternally damned. They also preach to them constantly about their sins, despite themselves going against it, except for going to church.
When I hear people criticize marriage, at the end of their diatribe, it seems that the unspoken conclusion is that I certainly must be stupid to have gotten married.
If marriage is not for you, that's fine. I have no interest in trying to convince people to do something they don't want to do. But that doesn't mean marriage is bad for everyone else.
I think liver is disgusting, but if I see someone else eating liver, I don't need to tell them how awful liver is. Why do you need to tell people how awful marriage is? Do you need validation for your opinions?
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It's probably just a few women on here that are bitter about guys not wanting to get screwed if it ends badly, like it's often said to happen.
One idiot even called us 'disgusting' for complaining about losing our assets, because it's the least they we can do for being a POS husband, because women sacrifice more'.
Notice how I'm only talking about a few women on here and not trying to generalise, unlike some of the sexist clowns on here, like this:
www. girlsaskguys. com/fashion-style/q5135660-are-most-men-sexistWell if someone believes in marriage and the happiness it can give them and you speak negatively about it, obviously conflict will arise. I believe most people like the idea of having a partner that's bound to them. Someone who is not going to leave you for anything. For better or worse, through thick and thin. Obviously marriage doesn't necessarily mean that, especially nowadays where divorce rates are high, but it's symbolic of that desired relationship that people want. It's also nice to have a symbolic piece (a ring) that shows you're bound to someone else and celebrate the bonding of you 2 in a wedding ceremony.
So who are you to shit on other people's fantasy. Even I myself I want to get married and wouldn't get offended if you criticize it, but would definitely question your way of thinking.clueless.
I got married early in life, it didn't work out so I moved on and just had fun.
Getting married was just something that I never worried about.
I enjoyed being single, being able to come and go as I pleased, travel, buy what I wanted.
I also never had the dad gene in me, I just never had the desire to be a dad.
A few years ago I did get married again, both our second one and I am happy.
SO why others get their undies in a bundle about it is beyond me.
Maybe because the way you present it makes them feel threatened, and argumentative.
Maybe just say marriage isn't for me and let it go at that.
Doing that might cut back on the drama, unless you enjoy a spirted discussion about the subject.Everyone has a different definition of criticism. If you told me I was a fucking idiot for getting married, I'd probably be a little annoyed or angry. If you lay a blanket complement down that says you don't agree with marriage or don't want to get marriage and critique the general population of married individuals I'm really not going to care.
Because , just like Santa Claus and the Tooth fairy , its a lovely but utterly unrealistic ideal , they just love the idea , then they do it and say " Fck , I didn't sign up for this did I " with their lives in the deep , dark , crevasse of despair.
Yet here you are sharing your anti-marriage views in the form of a confrontational question and then getting butt hurt when people disagree in response. I mean, you're the one who put the question out there. You're not a victim.
If people who defend marriage upset you, why do you instigate arguments?
If you don't like marriage, why don't you just not get married? Why do you have to go on a campaign?It may be more of a country / society thing. I have never had any hassle for saying marriage is not for everyone. Plenty people live with their partner in exactly the same way they would without a church wedding. The main thing is being committed to the same partner in a loving relationship, does not matter squat if they get married in church, registry office or don’t bother at all.
Despite divorce rates being on the rise, there are so many couples who are happy with their situation. Just because I don't want to marry, it doesn't mean that I am opposed to marriages. However, if your phrasing is wrong, people might think that you despise everyone who decides to marry.
Mostly because nowadays the original idea of marriage - a business partnership - has been replaced with the concept of a romantic bond, so people critical of that concept are seen as people rejecting love.
Me? I'm nonplussed, I approached my marriage as a business partnership between my wife and I our families' interest, and it worked out well.
Because they're either married and think you are attacking them personally or they look at you as a deviant because you aren't following societal norms. Most people get married so they see you breaking societal norms.
because when we were kids Disney movies tried so hard to convince us that getting married will guarantee us that happily ever after life.
so till this day a lot of people have a hard time getting over that, their cognitive dissonance won't let them accept that this is all horseshit
Some people cannot deal with any opinion that differs from their own. I personally love the idea of marriage, but will not consider it under the current laws. She breaks the vows and still walks away with half of what I earned during the marriage and lifetime alimony if the marriage is long enough? No thanks.
Well shit, no one involved wants to hear opinions that differ from capitalizing off of a "love contract". Marriage has turned, in at least the time I've existed, from a ceremony of union for life into.. Yo fuck all that, this is a legal document which entitles me to half when our divorce finally happens.
The only problem I have with marriage is that it incentivizes the wives to leave their husbands.
For men, marriage is a total scam. What is the benefit to it if you can do everything right and still lose half of your stuff because your wife woke up one day and decided she didn't love you anymore.
I am not against divorce but if marriages cab end as easily as it began if not easier, there is no point. You might as well just stayed into a relationship.
they assume you are bitter about your personal failure, so ignore you.
like the fox who jumped but couldn't reach grapes said "i wouldn't enjoy them anyway" so you say marry is bad.
Just add the disclaimer that you have a low opinion of marriage - now. Given the legal and cultural climate of "3rd wave" femi (commu) nism, your stance is totally understandable.
I'm certainly not butthurt over it. People have a right to their own opinion on the matter. Not everyone is for marriage and that's okay. I don't get anyone who is triggered by it.
Certain people have strong beliefs and feelings for marriage. Usually when people criticize marriage it’s usually about men getting no benefit and stuck with alimony or that people just not wanting to get married
I am not married but I certainly want to get married. I also see why others wouldn’t want to get married too. I respect everyone’s choice no one should be expected to get married if they don’t want to. But then again you don’t need to criticize others choices you can just say i don’t want to do that but good luck to y'all.
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