When do u know its time to move on?

[Anonymous]

I like someone but he says he's leaving things to fate so he wants to focus on healing and self development and if its meant to be we'd find ourselves. I'm ok with it but I'm scared. I wanna wait but what if after he heals it isn't me he wants. I'll be stuck. So I'm thinking if I should just move on and I fear that if I do I may not look back. When I love someone I give my all and I work toward marriage. Its sounds like it's my understanding of self against he proposed fate?

[RoseySarah]

When they give you a selfish answer like that!

Those are bs answers they get from tv! No matter what they do they are the same person just with a new false face!

Fate is an excuse to say what ever happens I don't care for now or about you!

Of course your that way a lot of people are but the hook up culture what is popular says it's a bad way to think when it is the right way!

Keep working on looking for your marriage man! He is out there mine was took me ages and so many bad dates to find him!

[Asker]

Awwwn but I'm happy u found him. Thanks for the advice. I and this guy actually dated but things got rough so he left me and came back saying the reason he left was cause the relationship was detoriating and to save it he left so we can go heal and if its meant to be we'd come back but he says he loves me. I don't know I just feel like I'm hanging on a tree. It's almost 10 months of being apart. I got to know this about 8 months after he left. I'm trying to let things go but I just keep overthinking on the whole thing. My fear is if I move on I may not be able to look back. I don't date for fun I date in hopes of getting married, build a family a home... I'm trying to make sense of everything but I just get more confused. It feels like I'm on a string.

[Asker]

I believe in fate yesss but this is risky. Like if u love me why let me go when I don't wanna be let go, if u love me why not fight to make things work. Are guys so scared to tell a girl that they don't want them. at least she'd be able to move on. It's like saying I'm moving on at my own risk. If u don't want me no more tell me rathrr than saying I leave it to fate. Am I overthinking this?

[RoseySarah]

No he gave you a B's answer making you feel like he is coming back but he is not that is his way back if he needs or wants you again!

Playboys do this a lot usually with friends with benefits but guys always want that what if safety if he is not finding someone else.

He has another girl or he would have come back something is keeping him from you and I admire the loyalty...

It's wasted on him he has not really show any signs he is your special one or coming back because you matter to him more then anything!

Which is what a loyal woman like you deserves!

So right you don't leave when it's bad! Imagine being married and he says that which is what he will do! He will divorce and go just to come back maybe! Bet he gets 3 wives in the future at least! All hatting him for this bs!

It's not fate that will bring him back it is his choice!

You work and fix it not run off! With you hurting!

[Asker]

Thanks. Your advice means a lot. I think I'm gonna call him out on this.

[RoseySarah]

Go for it but just know he won't be happy or accepting just mad play hurt or pretend cry.

It's been 8 months!

Up to you on calling it or just have him as a when ever back up slowly moving on when your ready

[Asker]

I love how u think for real but nah I wouldn't want him for a backup plan... nahhhhh

[RoseySarah]

Here is a big hug 🤗 you will find a man worth marrying that puts you first!

[Anonymous]

I say move on and date other guys, because he wants to focus more on himself.

[Asker]

I wanna believe so bad that he really wants to focus on himself, heal and develop but it' ain't adding up. I really don't know but my intuition is telling me something ain't right.

[Opinion Owner]

Follow your gut feeling.

[DreamLife7]

He doesn't like u lol.

[Asker]

I'd have agreed with this but why would someone who doesn't have feelings be concerned about me having a boyfriend. The most reasonable explanation for this is the fact that he's stringing me along. Maybe he keeping me as an option.