Do you think it’s cool to have a 30-year age gap in a relationship?

[nicole]

Some of my friends think that it becomes cooler when there is a huge gap between you and your partner. Do you agree? Is it cool for you to have a 30-year age gap in a relationship?

[bongo]

First off, "cool" is a pretty subjective term, right? What's cool to one person might be a total no-go for another. When it comes to relationships with a significant age gap, like 30 years, there's a lot to consider.

On one hand, love is love. When two people connect on a deep level, understand each other, share similar interests, values, or life goals, the number on their birth certificates might not seem all that important. We've all heard the saying, "Age is just a number," and for some couples, that really does hold true.

A 30-year age gap can bring its own unique set of challenges. There are often cultural or generational differences, varying life stages, and different energy levels or health concerns to consider. Not to mention, societal perceptions and judgments can be tough to deal with.

What's "cool" or acceptable really boils down to the individuals involved. Are they respectful with each other? Are they both in it for the right reasons?

If the relationship is built on mutual respect, love, and understanding, and both people are consenting adults aware of what they're getting into, then who's to say it's not cool? It's really up to them to define what works for their relationship.

In the end, every relationship has its hurdles, age gap or not. If that person happens to be 30 years older or younger, and you're both all in, then you do you.

[Finchie40]

As long as the chemistry and connection and attraction is there , then age really means shit , I don’t really hold age as a deciding factor when meeting a beautiful girl that catches my eye and her and I share a lot of the same interests , I have dated girls’ that I was 20 years older than that treated me like Gold because her and I had a lot of the same interests and chemistry together. I feel people that hold age as a deciding factor are only limiting themselves from someone that could actually be amazing to them , I met a lot of girls’ that acted mature for her age , and I met a lot of girls’ that were older than me that acted immature for her age , so that’s why age doesn’t really bother me , I don’t walk up to a beautiful girl that caught my eye and ask her how old are you? As my first question , to her , that would be silly and I guarantee she would think that was silly as well and tell me to back off lol I would try to strike up a conversation with her casually , if she casually starts talking to me back and we start to get to know each other and the conversation keeps continuing , then I am sure eventually the topic of age would come up , and if I found out we had a huge age gap , I wouldn’t automatically hate her all of a sudden and say sorry I change my mind , now if she did that would be her choice but again I wasn’t after her age to begin with , I was after her beauty and her heart , At my age now , I been having more luck with the younger girls than the older girls’ Maybe because I wish I was still in my 20’s and 30’s who knows lol But I have met a lot of younger girls’ that are more mature than girls my age or older these days. But again age doesn’t really matter to me , It’s the chemistry and connection and attraction that matters

[Berethor]

Cool for the one who is older I guess, and women can't have children with such age-gap.

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[D_Bone_Steak]

Hmmm... my age minus 30 is just 11 though right? I'm not Joe Biden.

I think I'll pass and go for girls a little bit older...

[normalice]

Eh. Passed the age of 27 or so it doesn't really matter anymore, in my opinion. Everyone is an adult by any standard at that point. No one is planting a flag anywhere. Everyone has had sufficient opportunity to identify when someone is taking advantage of them and should know how to escape or stop it. And everyone should be well aware their remaining time is limited and their most healthy nubile years are behind them. Get your kicks where you may, I guess.

[BonzoInBitburg]

I've dated women 30 years younger. I didn't know their age until later. Met on LinkedIn and had common interests. If you notice an age difference then its not going to work. Age gap isn't a reason to date someone or to not date someone.

[HelpfulWoman]

i think it shows their absolute "privilege" if its a "cool" thing rather than the more common factors of abuse, manipulation and such

[BoopBoopBeep]

I don't think it's cool or uncool. Makes no difference to me if they are all adults.

[Slapmynuts]

I don't know about cool but love is love! I'm not judging nor will I ever judge for who am I? 😁

[HouseMoat]

My mom has a friend who has a 20 year diff. they made it work

[EmmaMary]

No, absolutely not.

[Staximus]

Sounds like a recipe for failure

[austinbooth]

No. Same age is better.

[BLP11520]

Why not? Love someone it can work

[laly520]

heck no

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope

[JHAYES317]

No that’s gross

[dudeinohio]

Nope

[Mugeez]

Yeah

[QuietRunner]

no not good

[eagle1951]

not sure