How to allow myself to love and live?

[Anonymous]

Well, recently, I started talking to this woman (she lives in another country). I have been able to meet her, and not catfishing happened. The problem is all my insecurities pop up like: I wonder why she isn't married, does she really like me for me (or what she thinks I can offer her), is she possibly playing me for a fool and has another guy, and is this one sided. These are thoughts that pop into my head and prevent me from fully going in and opening up. Additionally, like the first girl I ever loved, I don't have those feelings, which make me nervous. I want to get married and see where she is a wonderful person. Right now I'm just so on guard and don't want to, be several years down the road and starting over. I want to get it right the first time. With that said I'm afraid I will miss out with someone who might be the best thing to happen to me and never get married. I need advice. How do you get through the sea of feelings and insecurities?

[kylee2437]

How about just have fun with dating and don’t pressure these things to happen? Men don’t realize that once they are in a relationship, they have 100% control of where the relationship leads for the most part. Make her happy, make her feel like she can be herself , and that is as long as you actually like her. The less expectations you put onto a situation, the more fun you have with someone

[Anonymous]

Why is this one special. Why do u think it’s love

[SoJust]

If you met on the internet, you cannot be a lover. The same woman does not write to you, she also writes to different men, so act in a knowledgeable way. You cannot be a lover with the women you met online

[Asker]

We met through a mutual friend and have been corresponding. I have met her in person, and she is whom she d
Showed to be.

[SoJust]

I understand, how is she treating you now?

[Asker]

So far everything seems alright. It is still rather early. There are certain things o would like to really see. Like to see if she is kind, caring, supportive, ambitious and supportive.

[Asker]

Not to mention, if she is really into me.

[SoJust]

Take it slow my friend, don't get caught up in negativity, everything is bound to happen, God Jesus always has a plan in these relationship matters, remember that, you are loved very much by God Jesus

[Asker]

Thank you I really appreciate your advice. I have prayed about it and asked if it is his will let it work, and if not let it not work.

[SoJust]

You're welcome mate , I can Pray you everday, Jesus bless

[Asker]

Thank you appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

She may still be using you or a gold digger. You should put her through more testing. To see if she is worthy.

[Staximus]

Nevermind women in other countries. Find one within reasonable driving distance.

[Anonymous]

You are still dealing with immaturity. It is time to grow up.

[Anonymous]

Learn to let go of your past and live in the present.