Do you believe in the phrase "opposites attract"?

[mono_gram]

Yes

No, I'd rather date someone similar to me

[Bethany22]

I believe opposites attract, but only in specific ways. If one person is too cerebral, then the emotional person just won't think it's worth sticking around. But if the cerebral person shows just enough empathy to satisfy the emotional person's needs, then the emotional person will stick around and not take the other person for granted. Another scenario, is that similar people tend to be drawn to each other when they have no other option, whereby it results in a toxic bond of criticizing each other.

[Miristheiss]

Yes, BUT in a very small degree. Not with major compatibility pillars. One person can be a little more outgoing and the other a little more introverted. One can like to read and the other not. One can be into football and the other not.

They cannot be opposites with one being a wasteful spender and the other a saver and investor. One cannot want 2 kids and the other want zero kids. You cannot have one who is promiscuous and sleeps around and the other believes in sex only in committed "in love" relationships, you cannot have one be a God denying atheist and the other a devote person of faith. You cannot have one who wants open relationships and threesomes and one be monogamous.

In little stuff opposites can attract.

In major pillars it will always lead to a relationship split.

[itsclearlynicholas]

No, and definitely not by now at ripe old 29. Some women and some guys think it lasts, it don't lol, only short term at best. I prefer long term a woman who's basically me, almost, yet "different" where it doesn't clash aka I like the left seat, she likes the right seat. Or we're gonna have to take turns if we both prefer the left seat, or coin tosses. You see my jam there? Anyways. And someone's either gonna be the greater leader, and two leaders can't both lead lol amicably lol 😂😆 so I for one think, a woman who's submissive while I'm dominant, perfection. If she's dominant and I'm dominant, that ain't gonna work out and we ain't gonna get along lol 😂😆

[itsclearlynicholas]

And that's before even going into shared interests shared views etc

[Apple1996]

Definitely I would only ever be with someone that is the complete opposite of me. Being similar is boring

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, but I have also heard "birds of a feather flock together," and I find truth in that, also.

[Keyboardkat]

I'm proof of this. I tend to be introverted. All my girlfriends were outgoing, extroverted, playful, funny, and liked to laugh a lot. Thus they completed for me what was missing in my own personality. I married a girl like this, and I've been thrilled with her ever since!

[HawkPerception]

Opposites only attract in regards to traits like older and younger, bigger and smaller, strong and weak, tall and short, masculine and feminine, dominant and submissive, extroverted and introverted, etc.

However the main things that attract people to each other is similarities. Similarities are what create chemistry. Similar views, interests, goals in life, communication style, way of thinking, love languages, sense of humor, sexual compatibility, etc.

[exitseven]

I think it can happen. I dated somebody who really was the opposite of all the others I had dated. There was just something that was different about her and I really did fall in love with her. It was fun for a while but it was pretty obvious it was not sustainable.

[miana]

What made it end if I may ask?

[exitseven]

@miana She was crazy. Looking back she was bi polar or something. She was a bartender, She was the only girl I ever picked up in a bar. Her whole life was all about drinking and partying. I was going to school full time and had a part time job. She really was a lot of fun to be with but she would get angry when I could not go out with her at 11 PM and drink with the other people she worked with because I had school the next day,
She used to say really mean things to me and sometimes got physical. Once she bit me so hard I still have the scar. I would never hit her back but I used to restrain her until she calmed down.
She came over to my place late one night. She was drunk and wanted me to go out with her. I told her i could not go. She got angry and kicked me and stormed out.. She would not answer any of my phone calls A couple of weeks went by so I went to her place. She was living with a friend and her boyfriend. They told me she moved out and went to live with some friends. They did not know who. I think they kicked her out.
I never heard from her again.

[miana]

That's such a mess huh I'm so sorry

[NathanDavis]

depends on how opposite... but in general, I can have it either way

[abc3643]

Yes.

This equation says that:

[aceleon]

in my case i do because if the girl is similiar to me she would be a bitchy one.

[EmyyWolf]

Sure. I’ve seen those dynamics work just fine. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Why not.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Yes if they both get what they want out of the relationship.
It wouldn't work for me, I went for a likeminded person and it's been working out.

[wiltingrosepetal]

Opposites need some foundational similarities to actually date

[Paul09]

Maybe Temporarily it might work for a while. But in the long run, nope. Rarely. What's the point if you can't share certain activities and hobbies together?

[Shiningtempest]

I don't believe in the phrase "opposites attract". I strongly believe similarity lasts longer. Thus, I can only date a woman with shared interests, values, & outlooks.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, opposites repel.
Similarities attract.

[Yannae]

No, the opposite seems overwhelming. She'd constantly want to go out to parties.

[Minahh]

nope, i want to date someone pretty similar to me or at least someone whose qualities work well with mine, otherwise its pain in the ass

[DagonbroughtMehere]

It has proven to be an actuality, however, not for Me.

[clubboss]

I will date someone who can be compatible with me and who i can dominate.

[only4me]

opposite attract,
but similarities make you stick together

[Anonymous]

there should be an option to just say both are true lol, because they are, just in different areas

[serious]

No absolutely not.