Hi, I've kind of stopped inviting my boyfriend to do things during the week because he's usually been busy each night and always said no. He's typically either playing tennis, video games, or working on projects. He lives about 30 mins from me and although there's a halfway point between us 15 mins away, he or I are usually too tired to hang.
For example, tonight is Monday and my first free night in weeks, but I'm not even going to ask him to hang the rest of the week because I know he'll say no. We both live at home & remote work to save $. Sometimes every once in a while I will go watch his tennis games and he asks how my night is, but it's become an unspoken rule we don't contact on weeknights.
I, in the past, tried inviting him to ice cream at the 15 minute points, or suggested coming over to watch him play video games, etc. but it looks like it's kind of fizzled out with work etc..
My main concern is that we have sort of different lives and will drift and not sure how this relationship will play out in the next months. It's been almost 10 months of this (while living at home) with the same every week. I do see him once a week on weekends and we hang out lots with friends then. He seems happy but has brought up in the past it's hard to do stuff on weeknights and seems like once a week is fine for now.
We haven't brought up moving in yet, but he hasn't talked about it yet. At this point, I'm not even sure I would feel comfortable yet, even though it's been almost 12 months, because sometimes I feel like we would need to have more time together first and would need to have more conversations on it. What should I do?
