Should my partner split bills 50/50 if he earns more than me? He just gives me 100 a week towards everything for us and our children?

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My partner earns a lot more than me but he only gives me £100 a week for us and our children and some weeks he doesn't give anything and i can be struggling at times while he's there living easy. i mention him giving more but he just goes on like im ungrateful because he does give us some.. he does share a flat with his friend but his hardly ever there only goes up if we need abit of space from each other at times so he does pay half rent and countil tax and a little on the electric but not half as much as im having to try and provide all the time because he's living here more than there , im not sure if im expecting to much but he earns a week what i pickup a month and i pay everything for our children etc all the bills etc just off 100 a week if that am i being fair or asking for to much just annoying when were struggling and he's there with all that money that he will spend on his cars etc instead of helping us more

LazerBean · Accepted Answer

Yikes. If you aren't married, then that definitely makes a difference. If you are not married, I would say start keeping receipts of the groceries and such that you, him, and the kids share, and then give him a bill for half. If you do the cooking, then you can either start charging him for it or take turns cooking. Split chores 50/50. Also definitely do not have any more kids with him, since there's a high likely should that this relationship will fail. If you're still struggling after making him pay for his half of the groceries, I would tell him that you just can't afford to live there anymore and that you will be moving into a smaller apartment, a long with the kid if he doesn't want to take full responsibility for them.

MzAsh · Accepted Answer

He sounds stingy af. But it also sounds like you failed to vet him properly. I get the feeling you fell into this situation, while assuming he’d be a provider. Just because a man’s got money doesn’t mean he’s going to be generous with it, and that’s why I encourage women towards earning their own income.

Honestly if I were in your situation, I’d make a list of needs for you and the kids, tally it, and then tell him if he can’t meet that then I’m getting a full time job and HE can take the kids while I’m at work. Or he can pay for a sitter. But that’s just what I’d do.

Billlewis · Accepted Answer

No -- he, along with every other guy who is in a relationship, should always pay 100% of the woman's bills, rent/mortgage and as many other expenses as he possibly can, in my opinion.

JacobJordan · Accepted Answer

The fuck!!! The entire point of 50/50 is it applies to 2 people. Their are kids involved dumbass needs to step his shit up. If they are his kids of course.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the classic conundrum of financial fairness! Your feelings aren't just valid; they're spotlighting a huge red flag in partnership equity. Love, let's break it down: relationships, especially those with kiddos in the mix, are about teamwork. And what does a great team do? They support each other, especially when the chips are down or, in this case, when the bank balances are worlds apart.

Now, I'm all for independence, but when it's one for all, and all for one, it shouldn't mean one is scraping by while the other is living large. It sounds like it's time for a heart-to-heart, where you express not just your needs but how this imbalance makes you feel. Remember, it's not about counting pennies but ensuring both partners and their children feel supported and secure.

If he's unintentionally been in his own bubble, this could be his wake-up call. But if the purse strings remain tied tight? Well, love, it might be time to reassess the situation. Relationships are a two-way street, not a solo joyride. Feel like venting or diving deeper into this? Drop me a message; let's unravel this together! 💕

Apple1996 · Answer

If y'all have kids he should be fully supporting you

Anonymous · Answer

And this is the man you choose to lay down with and father your children🙄.

Anonymous · Answer

Are not you on benefits child benefits? Why would he split your bills when he doesn't live under the same roof. He pays for his kids, that's more than enough, if you want someone to fund certain life style, get a job from home and entertain how you wanna live.

steveusna · Answer

Sex tourism is far less expensive than having a girlfriend.

genericname85 · Answer

why does he even give you money at all, if you are working? xD

alice55 · Answer

You should ask him to put all the money on a joint account

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yes, bills should be a 50/50 split regardless I think.

Anonymous · Answer

Take him to court for child support, they'll rap him good Failing that a healthy life insurance policy and an industrial accident

laly520 · Answer

not a great husband or father sorry

Cazaputas · Answer

I don't spend money on women.

sheikalana · Answer

Is 100$ even enough?

Pohjolan · Answer

Wait they are  his  kids?

jimmy2 · Answer

That's not much money for careing for children

Should my partner split bills 50/50 if he earns more than me? He just gives me 100 a week towards everything for us and our children?

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