Why would a girl enter a relationship and not put in any effort?

[Anonymous]

Like the relationship was one sided everyone around seen that I was giving more then she was to it. I had never had a relationship prior to this due to poor social skills so I thought this was cool and special and I was gonna put my everything into it. She didn’t even down to the communication part we had constant disagreements that were repetitive because when I would try to talk to her she was playing on her phone or the conversation would trigger her. So this led to repeated arguments over the same issue. So I proposed relationship counseling to where there is a third party mediation to where he or she hears both sides and so we could effectively get on the same page. She wasn’t interested in that and made excuses that she was too busy. At the end of the day I’m left with a experience, in ways I feel a wasted experience because I can only imagine how good the relationship would have been had we been equally invested.

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This has me second guessing future relationships

[XHopelessRomanticX]

The hard truth is that your girlfriend is just not cut out for relationships. It’s sad, a lot of people want to be in a relationship, and have the title of “boyfriend” or “girlfriend”, while simultaneously living and acting as if they’re still single. You need to find someone who is more compatible with you and is willing to put in the efforts to make a relationship work.

[Asker]

Ok this makes sense because she was addicted to social media and would post constant pictures of herself, family, friends even our pets but never pictures of us

[Anonymous]

Sadly some women are backwards and think a man should do all the effort and all the work. Traveling both lengths of a two way road, you couldn’t have done that forever. The relationship was never going to get better than it was unless she wanted to do the work and she just didn’t.

[naartjie]

I could ask the same for guys… I don’t understand it. Maybe it’s their fear of being alone, not actually wanting a relationship.

[laly520]

they r time wasters