What does it mean when a man says he feels very comfortable with you?

[Anonymous]

I feel very comfortable with you.

I love how open we are with our communication.

I will never lie to you and I will always give you honest answers about anything you ask me.

I want to know the same, I want to know everything about your life, who you date, who are your love interests, who are your friends…

And he also told me he was on a date the other day I asked.

We just talk and occasionally call.

I don’t feel like I am friend zoned, but I definitely feel like it’s not exactly what I wanted from him.

I am not dating anyone cause I can’t concentrate on many people at the same time, he, though seems to do it just fine.

[robhazelnut]

If you don't know what he means by saying he feels comfiortable with you, then that's all there is to it- you don't currently know and neither do any of us. One test of integrity is to see if he treats you notably worse when he's around different people, notably better when around different people, or the same. If it's worse or better, he's been putting on an act for sure. If it's the same, then the only way he's fooling you is if he's also fooling everyone around him. Testing will show how consistently he treats you. Every day is new. This is the value of taking your time. Generally, men feel safer in private than in public, since the public expects things from them while in private they can select those who are chill or who can't do much to them.

[ProbablyClueless]

Sounds like he cares for you and enjoys communicating with you, but doesn't have any immediate plans to have a formal relationship with you.

[Asker]

We live too far so I guess it’s natural.

[Asker]

But is this friend zone or what?

[ProbablyClueless]

I wouldn't call that the friend zone. It doesn't seem like a relationship is immediately on the horizon for him, but I also don't think he's opposed to the idea of that being a possibility one day.

[Asker]

Why does he want to know all about my life if he is busy enjoying his and dating around thoug?

[ProbablyClueless]

Because he enjoys the connection. Just because it's not immediately going anywhere doesn't mean that it isn't worth investing time and energy into.

[NathanDavis]

bit of a red flag there...

" I will never lie to you and I will always be honest " might mean he has lied before, or to others... and not just once, maybe has not been completely honest lol

[Asker]

No, he answered me that when I asked why he didn’t hide it from me that he went on a date…

[Asker]

He said, he doesn’t want to lie to me when I ask something.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Sounds like something a wise man said on a question recently. Probably a wise man with rescue kittens. Rescue kittens make me wise. I mean... somebody. Make somebody wise.

[Asker]

@BoopBoopBeep about red flag?

[Asker]

I should get rescue kittens too, maybe I’ll get wiser

[BoopBoopBeep]

No i think the red flag comment is stupid. About "I told you becaue you asked."

[Asker]

@BoopBoopBeep Yeah… He told me he never wants to lie to me and wants to know everything about my life too… Also, he wants to know about guys I date or am friends with or am romantically interested in… Why would he want to know that? I told him that I have not had anyone after my past relationship, with whom I was for up to 4 years and we were engaged.

He told me He has had a few relationships, but none lasted more than a year after his engagement years ago.

And that he doesn’t take intimacy this seriously and can enjoy without love, but appreciates that I know myself and I stay true to my beliefs and what feels right for me.

I told him I got very confused about our conversation and that’s when he tried to explain and told me he loves our open communication and he feels really comfortable with me…

I am still confused and don’t understand anything. So I just take a space, I need to process my thoughts.

[Asker]

What u think about this?

[BoopBoopBeep]

I answered in DM

[Dongie]

As in some ladies make him nervous. You however, allows him to relax so get ready for interaction.

[Asker]

What interaction?

[Dongie]

That's up to you child

[elaphe]

Don't try to find a deep meaning to it. He means that he is comfortable with you.

[MsBrie]

He sounds like he really likes you.

[Asker]

Did you read the description though?

[MsBrie]

I did my opinion is still relevant he maybe looking at you as an option have you ever met this guy face to face?

[In_Trance]

That's self explanatory

[Asker]

How so?

[jahaims]

Literally what he said

[Bklynbadboy12]

Well that's self explanatory

[Caitlyn98]

It means he likes you