I am 29, and my girlfriend is 26. We are each other's very first serious relationship. We met on New Years Eve, dated, and we officially became boyfriend/girlfriend at the beginning of February. Not long ago, I took her virginity.
Moments ago, I just had a conversation with her on the phone. I raised concerns that I hardly get to see her. On average, we see each other once a week for a few hours. I have yet to really interact much with her family. I only saw her mom once on New Years Eve when I first met my girlfriend. I met her brother once. And I have only had a few brief conversations with her dad when I pick her up at her house. I have been expressing for a while now how I want to get to know her family. I haven't been invited into her house beyond the foyer when I pick her up.
Meanwhile, I moved out of my mom's house a few weeks ago and leased an apartment in hopes my girlfriend would see me more. So far, that hasn't really worked.
The thing is, she doesn't really conversate well on the phone. She even expressed that herself.
I finally told her today that while I am giving her the benefit of the doubt now, eventually it is going to be a red flag.
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Communication and expectations seems to be an issue. You obviously had some expectations with moving out and seeing your girlfriend more, but she seems to have other ideas. This is why communication is so important. You need to find out where both of you are and actually listen to each other. What are her feelings? It sounds like she's not vocal enough or largely silent, so you've almost filled in the gaps and built up some image of her yourself. I think you need to chill out and talk more. But you ultimately can lead a horse to water... Maybe she can't give you what you need.
This is what happens when you have little to no relationship experience.
It is not like I wanted to be such a late bloomer. Hell, I am already having issues now with erectile dysfunction, low testosterone, and kidney stones.
You have been dating a few months. Give it some more time.