We've been together for 1 month and it is a quite new relationship but I feel that he is not romantic to me. Is this normal in our 1st month? What would you do if your partner is not romantic enough even if you have expectations?
Sorry to say but we men are often not very romantic. You will get guys saying how romantic they are…. Mostly they are full of crap. Guys are romantic because they are trying to get something… once they get it on a normal time frame they stop trying so hard. It’s not just guys, it’s girls too.
I will admit that I am not that romantic. Oh I’ll buy the occasional flowers, hold open doors, pour a candle light bath for my girl, but that’s about it.…. So I’m not sure of what you are looking for but if it’s not easy you are not going to get it.
Sit him down and discuss your love languages. Both of you need to make a commitment to honor them. Don’t know what they are Google em!
It's just the way he is... but if you want it and majority of girls do then he should try to make the effort to be more romantic especially with such a new relationship. Talk to him and see if he's willing... if not, reevaluate your relationship. Being romantic is not the most important thing in the world... but being willing to make your partner happy is crucial in relationships (and applies to both partners). Without it I don't think it could last.
did you talk to him about how do you feel? How does he feel? What are things possible for him to fo, what you will have to fo? Make conversation and learn his perspective. He can't read your mind
Diving headfirst into the throes of love, it's natural to crave that whirlwind of butterflies and grand gestures, especially when the relationship is fresh out of the love oven. 😘 Every person has their unique love language; maybe your beau expresses his affection in more under-the-radar ways than the grand, romantic gestures we're spoon-fed by movies and novels. Why not flip the script? Instead of waiting for the romance to come to you, sprinkle a little of your own romantic pixie dust and see how he responds. Communication is the sexy glue that holds relationships together. Share your desires and expectations with him—but keep it light and flirty. It's like dancing; one of you has to take the lead, and it might just inspire him to turn up the romance. Remember, it's a tango for two! 🌹
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The first month is still considered the “talking stage” in a lot of relationships. So talk with him about what’s important to you as far as romance.
Navigating the waters of romance and expectations in a relationship can sometimes feel like you're trying to read a map without any landmarks. It's pretty common to feel a disconnect when it comes to how affection is shown and received, and it's totally okay to wonder if it's more about the way your boyfriend is wired or if your own expectations are coloring your view.
Think of it this way: everyone has their own style when it comes to showing love. Maybe your boyfriend is the kind of guy who shows he cares in less obvious ways—like making sure your car's oil is changed on time rather than sweeping you off your feet with grand gestures. It's easy to overlook these kinds of acts as signs of affection if you're dreaming of movie-style romance with surprise dates and poetic love notes left in your purse.
We've all been fed a steady diet of films, books, and songs that paint a pretty specific picture of what love "should" look like. But real-life love is often quieter, and the truth is, not everyone's going to fit that perfect romantic lead role from your favorite rom-com.
Having a heart-to-heart with your boyfriend can really help bridge this gap. Sharing how you feel loved—whether it's through words, time spent together, or little surprises—can give him insight into how to make your heart flutter. And ask him how he likes to show his affection. You might be surprised to find out that he's been expressing his love in his own way all along.
Maybe he'll never be the guy who writes love sonnets or plans elaborate surprises, but he might start leaving little notes for you to find or sending sweet texts during the day. And as you start to notice the unique ways he shows his love, you might find them just as meaningful as any grand gesture.
Remember, the goal isn't to transform your boyfriend into someone he's not or to mold your relationship into an unrealistic ideal. With a bit of communication and a willingness to meet each other halfway, you might just find a romance that's better than anything you've imagined.
Men don't play games like woman do. They are usually upfront with who they are, what they say and what they mean. If you found him this way he'll more than likely stay this way.
I'm somewhat a little confused as your profile shows that you're married!
Let me get this straight. You find this guy you like enough to start a relationship with. Then after a month you complain he isn't romantic enough.
My question then is, what if he was overly romantic? Wouldn't that cause to run for the hills?
he needs trained.
maybe he just left the cave and doesn't understand how to have fun with his woman.
dont' care if it's the way he is, he needs to learn. failure means move on...
You can't expect that much in one month. Id say if he's not romantic and has not set why expectations or goals he wants in the relationship then that would be a potential issue. Give it time and see what he does
Hi there - I have the same issue the fact that I am doing and showing how much i love her and expect her to show me some love isn't working at all. I am in relationship with her for more than a year now. Nothing has changed. I even opened up to her and told her how i feel about it and she only ignores my concern and changes the topic.
Discuss it with him, you two will have to align your expectations.
He's not romantic. Ask him if he wants to be romantic. If he says no he does not want a relationship full of romance, then accept that and make a decision to leave or stay
Usually the first month should be the most romantic, they call it the "honey moon phase", so if he is this deaffectionate now i wouldn't expect good things in the future. 🤷🏽I could be wrong.
Communicate that you want more overt romantic gestures
Most men are clueless when it comes to romance. Sadly, it is becoming a lost art.
Probably a little of both but tell him how you feel maybe he can fix things
Talk and communicate about expectations.
You’re expecting too much
What do you expect him to do?
Women look down on us lovey Dovey guys lol 😂😆
What do you do to be romantic?
He doesn't like u
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