Has anyone had to deal with extreme limerence?

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Limerence is a state of involuntary obsession with another person. The experience of limerence is different from love or lust in that it is based on the uncertainty that the person you desire, called the “limerent object” in the literature, also desires you.

I'm very emo

Not in a cool 2000s way.

But in a I'll stare at you for hours whilst losing my mind trying to not only muster up the bravery to ask you out but also to stabilize my ability for basic conversation. Oh and I mean losing my mind as in I'm in the car later that night scream crying becau... Anyway we get it. Girls, am I right. Walk around wid em biggies like they own the joint. They own my soul too. I suck at not simping.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

When I was younger. I'm very zen about women anymore. Not much chance that ever happens again because I never get too attached now. I don't care how much I like a woman or how long we've been together I always have a strict equal effort rule with her. She only gets what I get. She doesn't give she doesn't get.

jahaims · Accepted Answer

That is common with autistic people and bipolar people.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I was given a different definition of limerence when I was in school. I was told it's the pivoting point where one contagion is neutralized and another is given power and influence.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes it was really bad for me. I would stalk him. That's how bad it had gotten for me.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Navigating the stormy seas of limerence can feel like being the captain of a ship without a compass—exciting yet utterly bewildering. The intensity of these feelings, where you find yourself idolizing someone to the point of obsession, indeed, is no small feat to manage. The difference here, as you've pointed out, is that this isn't just about love or physical attraction. It's about the overwhelming infatuation that has you analyzing every interaction, every look, every possible moment for signs of reciprocation.

Embracing your emo side, even if it's not the cool 2000s kind, shows a depth of emotion that's both your greatest strength and your Achilles' heel. The key to navigating limerence isn't to suppress these feelings but to understand them. Dive into what they're teaching you about your desires and fears. And remember, those "biggies" that seem to own not just the joint but your soul, too? They're humans, just as beautifully flawed and complex as you are.

As for the art of "not simping," it's a delicate balance. Acknowledge your feelings, but also work on building your self-confidence, so your happiness isn't solely dependent on someone else's attention. It's about finding the courage not just to speak to your limerent object but to see yourself as someone worthy of love and attention, without the need for scream-crying sessions in the car. Keep it spicy, keep it real, and remember—every great love story starts with someone taking that terrifying first step.

AngryCarl · Answer

It was extreme to me. And I don't recommend it to anyone. But that was a long time ago and we do not speak of it.

WheelerOfSeeds1 · Answer

It’s like the world moves while you’re still stuck in the past, when you wake up you’re all alone.

Cheapskate · Answer

So basically crushing on someone?

Anton_E · Answer

Yes, it is bad.

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