I (F27) have been nearly 5 years in a relationship with my boyfriend (M32).
When we started dating, I was super young and not thinking about kids and the future much at all. He was in a terible finacial situation at the yime due to his student debts, but has worked his way up to a 6 figures salary since. So the topic of kids never really came up and has not in the past few years really. Only which names we liked for kids, since we have 4 cats together I did not wanna give our cats any of my potential baby names. I was (un) lucky enough to inherit a very large sum of money at age 24 from a family member passing, so at age 24 I bought a house with a minimal mortage. He is not the owner of the house, due to the tax rules in our country: if we co owned a house I would be his finacial partner and be responisble for his student debts. So we are a very finacial stable couple.
Last Summer right after my birthday, my boyfriend then all of the sudden started to think about how we would have to redo the house if we would have a baby and where the crib would go and stuff. I felt I was way too young at the time to have a baby so he stopped talking about it after a while.
This Summer I am turning 28 and I feel this presure from my own body to have a kid. Maybe presure is the wrong word, maybe its an urge? I never wanted to have kids in my life and I never played with babydolls either, so I never looked at a baby and thought "aww I want one too".
I discussed this with my boyfriend this evening and I explained nervously that me getting older this year feels different then before and combined with my PCOS, I would like to have a child within 5 years from now. Because I feel that its time and I am not getting younger. He said "now you know how I feel about aging and that its the same for him". We did not talk much after that anymore because one of our cats barfed. Was this him saying he also wants kids?
