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Have you ever felt pressure from your family to get into a relationship?
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Actually, it was mostly a certain type and after a certain time, lol.
A Christian and after college and being settled or independent.
It seems quite alright on independence part, but the type of man as well seemed a bit judgmental. Or limiting.
Luckily though, I found a middle ground and the guy I’ve decided to be with believes in god and at times he has given me some reality checks on my beliefs. I suppose I was too indifferent or harsh, talking about god and sometimes the lack of him.
He doesn’t try to convert me and he’s respectful, of course, but I think his beliefs will be a plus for my parents. I don’t know how they’ll feel that he doesn’t attend church for other beliefs and personal reasons regarding the people who are religious or toxic, but I think he’s a win and a keep, and he’s the one for me 💕 😁👍
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I wouldn’t say it’s direct pressure as such, but I do get asked ‘do you have a boyfriend’ and questions like that at family gatherings a lot. Doesn’t help when every single cousin that’s there has a partner too. But I do feel pressure on myself to get a partner because of comments like that
No pressure to be in a relationship, totally pressure to get married! Me being the older son (out of two), the pressure raised even more after little brother tied the knot. Mum used to find out the singles in events and push them towards my direction. Whilst overseas on family trips, they used to put pressure on my on how to dress etc so I don't look gay or give singles the impression that I was taken. Took me 37 years to get married and I'm totally glad I made them suffer! :D
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No. Though my parents wanted grand kids. They got them but have only met one of them once 5 years ago the same time I let them know that unless my brother adopts the family name dies with my dad as I took my wife's last name and my brother is gay
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Aiming to sprinkle a little wisdom and a dash of charm on this one! Oh, the family pressure cooker, simmering with questions like, "When are we going to meet them?" or "Any love interests we should know about?" Trust me, I've been there, juggling the unsolicited matchmaking attempts with a smile. The key? Communication, my favorite word after "I love you." 🥰 Open up about how you feel and set those boundaries with love and confidence. Remember, it's your heart's journey, so take the wheel and drive at your pace. Who knows? Your detours might just lead to the most scenic routes. Keep smiling, keep shining, and let love find you doing what you love. 💖
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No. They didn't want me in a relationship.
My mom did realize that our part of our family name (probably) ends with me and my cousins, and she seemed a little sad about it. My brother doesn't want to get married / have kids. My sister has kids, but she took the guy's name, so they have his last name. It doesn't look like I'll be married any time soon, if I ever do get married. Who knows - maybe I'll marry someone much younger when I'm 70 and suddenly have a heap of kids.
My uncle had a few kids (my cousins). None of them want children, and it's a bit late for them if they suddenly changed their minds. -
So much pressure. From around 16 I've heard from my parents asking if there is someone I like, if I have a girlfriend, why I don't have a girlfriend a few times a week. Then they moved on to constantly assuring me it's fine if I'm gay as I'd not had a girlfriend so obviously I must be gay and just not telling them. No matter how much I told them I am not gay. Then they moved on to the you know it's okay to not meet anyone, how not everyone meets someone and that's fine if you don't.
And I hate it so much. It's really good for things like your confidence and all that. It's none of their business and maybe asking those sort of questions is fine once or twice. But several times a week over a few years is beyond ridiculous and infuriating. -
Most definitely. I think it's a social issue where there's this pressure to be in a relationship because it's redeemed as the rightful thing to do like getting married and procreation. But I have a mind of my own on my side and I never really fell into that trap. I will only be in a relationship if i want to and only on my own terms if it feels right.
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Now and then but not too often. My bans recently told me that I could meet a nice girl at the church my friends go to who feels the same way I do. I told her I really hoped not because I hold some resentment thanks to past relationship baggage. 😅 so that conversation didn’t last long.
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No. Mine was happy I was more into horses for the longest time. Being friends with all the boys in my neighborhood was enough for me. Considering most of my graduating class was pregnant or had a child by graduation I was a slim statistic.
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nope, I live my own life, make my own decisions and bear the consequences :D
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Yes. In my culture cousin can get married. My parents pressured me to get it on with my cousin. We dated for awhile but we ended our relationship. During the time we dated, we’re each other partner.
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Yes, however when they say anything I shut it down quick. I don’t speak about my romantic interests with family (that’s what my friends are for as they understand!), when the time is right and I’m with the right person then I’ll discuss it.
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Out of , YES ! , but never into. I don’t know how that would even happen , my family don’t have any say In who I spend time with with me not being a child etc
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If your family is doing that to you, it's a sign that you need to distance yourself from them for your own mental health and well-being.
Noone has the right ✅️ to pressure you into a relationship especially if it's family.
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nope. since i came from toxicity, not being in a relationship meant they could control you better.
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Relationship no, but every girl is are you getting married to this one, that usually spells the end of relationship lol
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Kind of, and at the same time no.
i don’t want any kids whatsoever. So I’ll mess around with hotties and enjoy my fucking life. Not mess it up with brats.
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Not really. I feel more pressure from MYSELF to get in a relationship 😂
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Yes and I hate it. Like, just let me live my life!
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Thankfully no. And when they start to pressure me about it they’re just gonna have to deal with it. 🤷🏻♂️
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Yup, several times. But I can't help it if I try to meet people and it just doesn't work.
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No, my family is pretty open to anything but we don't have many family friends or anything around my age
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They don’t pressure me to get into a relationship
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Yes o course. Hsvruou? We both know that generally those relationships seldom work
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